Snoop Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 So some background. I was with my ex for about 2 years. Great relationship but our communication was pretty poor. She was very upfront about things and at times very angry and perhaps explosive and I am pretty laid back and mellow and don't react well to that behavior. It caused me to drift away a little bit, she sensed it and dumped me. This was about 6 months ago. The breakup sucked. I did all the typical crap then just slowly moved forward. She calls every now and then, nothing major to talk about but we would talk normally. I would get and still do an occasional text or email and I would send her the same. A couple weeks ago she asks me to come over to her place to fix something and if I did she would treat me to dinner. Well it wasn't broken but she insisted on going to dinner anyway. We had a great time as we usually do, feels so easy and comfortable just being next to her. For me the world is at peace when she's near me. Everything's fine. When she's not next to me the world is still good but it doesn't feel the same..... Anyway, I offered to split the bill, she absolutely refused and tricked me by paying when I hit the jon. She gave me a sweatshirt that night which I of course forgot about and decided to return it a few days later. This turned into a dinner at her place. She predominantly displayed a small painting I made for her a long time ago on her living room tv stand. It confused me but my gut tells me she put it there knowing I would see it. I don't understand why. Last weekend I had to get something for my new niece at a cool little shop that was near her pad that has some very unique baby and kid things. So I told her if she would like to meet up i'll be out there and I'll take her to brunch. Sort of as a payback for the dinner a couple weeks ago. She said I didn't owe her any lunch but she agreed anyway. We had a great time of course and she even made some comment about some women checking me out. I just don't get her. I still care so much for this woman but I am guarded today. I am taking a back seat approach but I don't think that will work forever. Not sure, and I hate games and interpretation. I am getting too old for this kind of crap. So I am just gonna do nothing and if she continues I think I'm just gonna ask her straight up what's up. She's hot and cold or she's just pacing her time out with me getting a feel for where I'm at. Not sure. Can any women or guys here help me understand what her deal is? I won't play second guitar here. -Snoop
BCCA Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 So I am just gonna do nothing and if she continues I think I'm just gonna ask her straight up what's up. This is probably the best thing to do. To answer your question, only one person in the entire world knows what shes thinking: her. Anything else would be a guess, and honestly, there are a lot of variables. I think this plan is probably the only real way you'll know. Dating and relationships are a crapshoot. You never know what could happen or what people are thinking. All you can do is make sure your wants/needs are being met before helping anyone out with theirs.
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