Confession from a seemingly terrible person

[ChrisT]

Let me preface by saying my situation is hardly noteworthy compared to many stories I've read here. However, I've been here before and found more sincerity from total strangers than anyone in the "real"(non-cyber) world.

 

Anyway, I feel terrible right now because a few weeks back I lied to my now ex girlfriend (lets calll her E) of 7 months about who was coming to visit. I said it was friends from my hometown, when actually it was another girl that I've been interested in (well call her R) I met years before that is from the same country as E. This may or may not be important but seeing as im not from this country or culture it may have an added stinging affect on E.

 

Basically, I acted very strange before R arrived in a sort of subconscious and /or devious manner to make E want to distance herself from me so I could feel less like I was cheating on her (which technically I did not because she broke up with me barley a day before things happened with R and I). Im not proud. Now previously, E managed to come across an email from R some time ago(she was indeed snooping my email), she put 2 and 2 together, saw a bag in my room from a store that's only in her country and boom, out comes the plain truth. Now, E is totally heartbroken and while I feel a better attachment to R. It hurts to see what I did to E and I need to know what to do...shes told me if i care about her to just stay away. But its so hard to know. What she wants and what she says has confused me in the past.I need to make things right. Im not a bad guy...i just did a very sneaky and awful thing to both of these precious women. Thanks for listening.

 

Adam

[Geishawhelk]

Do as she asks.

Stay away.

In time, she may be ready to get in touch with you again, if only to rip the head from your shoulders.

If you really feel you can't comply with her wishes, write to her.

But don't talk to her until she calls you....

 

And if I know women, she just might.

[ChrisT]

i hope your right. im honestly not sure what it is i want. i just know that its not her wanting to drip dry me for the rest of her life.

 

thanks alot. it helps.

[Al_Bundy]

Let me preface by saying my situation is hardly noteworthy compared to many stories I've read here. However, I've been here before and found more sincerity from total strangers than anyone in the "real"(non-cyber) world.

 

Anyway, I feel terrible right now because a few weeks back I lied to my now ex girlfriend (lets calll her E) of 7 months about who was coming to visit. I said it was friends from my hometown, when actually it was another girl that I've been interested in (well call her R) I met years before that is from the same country as E. This may or may not be important but seeing as im not from this country or culture it may have an added stinging affect on E.

 

Basically, I acted very strange before R arrived in a sort of subconscious and /or devious manner to make E want to distance herself from me so I could feel less like I was cheating on her (which technically I did not because she broke up with me barley a day before things happened with R and I). Im not proud. Now previously, E managed to come across an email from R some time ago(she was indeed snooping my email), she put 2 and 2 together, saw a bag in my room from a store that's only in her country and boom, out comes the plain truth. Now, E is totally heartbroken and while I feel a better attachment to R. It hurts to see what I did to E and I need to know what to do...shes told me if i care about her to just stay away. But its so hard to know. What she wants and what she says has confused me in the past.I need to make things right. Im not a bad guy...i just did a very sneaky and awful thing to both of these precious women. Thanks for listening.

 

Adam

 

Whether or not you know what E wants is irrelevant. Most people haven't a clue what is best for them.

 

Best thing for E is for you to leave her alone. You've done quite enough.

[ChrisT]

thanks very much. i appreciate the reply and honesty.