DollWelch Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 it can all go sour if the attraction isn't present. I feel incredibly alive when I talk to him; understand each other quite well, and the compatibility factor is great. However, I'm nervous. I say this because I met him unexpectedly online, and honestly don't know what to expect. I don't know how to proceed from this point onwards. Add to that, he and I haven't exchanged pictures. So if there isn't attraction, I don't know what I'll do. I could do friendship, because quite frankly he seems to really have good reason and understanding of my personality. But then again, that's easier said than done. I hope he'll turn out to be cute! What are my chances? Very slim I bet. What should my next move be?
caramel drops Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Won't know unless you give it a try, right? Of course, there are risks involved but as long as you're ready to face the risks of him not being as attractive as you think he would be, which could lead down the road of a friendship-only most of the time and until you experience what's going on behind the screen for yourself, you just won't know for sure and its as simple as that.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 What should my next move be? Try and work out why you let yourself feel intense chemistry for someone you've never met? That's a dangerous thing to do to yourself.
Author DollWelch Posted October 14, 2008 Author Posted October 14, 2008 Won't know unless you give it a try, right? Of course, there are risks involved but as long as you're ready to face the risks of him not being as attractive as you think he would be, which could lead down the road of a friendship-only most of the time and until you experience what's going on behind the screen for yourself, you just won't know for sure and its as simple as that. Right, but I'm not investing too much here. It was a chance encounter, and contact is very minimal at this time. I barely know the guy so again I haven't put a lot of work into getting to know him. If things turn out as friendship, then that's perfectly fine for me, one more friend to have.
Author DollWelch Posted October 14, 2008 Author Posted October 14, 2008 Try and work out why you let yourself feel intense chemistry for someone you've never met? That's a dangerous thing to do to yourself. It can be dangerous, yes, but that's not what I'm doing. It's not like I'm going to run off with him in 3 days time, and get married. He's just different than most men I've come across, and that in itself is at least friendship worthy.
norajane Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 Right, but I'm not investing too much here. It was a chance encounter, and contact is very minimal at this time. I barely know the guy so again I haven't put a lot of work into getting to know him. If things turn out as friendship, then that's perfectly fine for me, one more friend to have. And yet you're really nervous and you're posting about it. In order for your expectations to be set in the right place, you first have to admit to yourself that your expectations are already pretty darned high for someone you don't know, and then adjust them downwards. He's a guy you've talked to online a few times. That's IT. So project fewer fantasies onto him, and get to know him slowly.
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