canadadry Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 I onced vowed never to get with a freshman college girl. Reasons include: -they look too young -maturity levels probably wont be equal -I feel like it's too easy and that I am being exploitative by using my age and experience Then I met this girl while doing laundry. She's hot, the intellectual type, and she likes me(?!). I've never experienced this combo in person before. Her cons are she still acts like a highschooler sometimes. It gets really annoying when she sings stupid songs or when she makes all these girl noises when she's with her friends. (heheh I am NOT trying to be insensitive here, just trying to get my impression across) I heard of something called the hand rule, where if you can count the age difference between you and her in one hand, then its all good. I barely make this cut. Should I pursue this?
Geishawhelk Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 That's up to you, really... You've just listed things that go against it. You'll have to understand that girls do girly things. It's really not that big an age gap you know. Statistically speaking, she's actually more mentally mature than you are..... Mental maturity starts levelling out when guys get to around 25 to 27.... until then, it's a slight edge to the women.... That's why you find her intellectual. She's actually still probably got the edge.... Either get over the girlie thing, and accept it, or try and see where it goes. Time will tell.
CommitmentPhobe Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Are you 23 or 33? Sheesh, have some fun and lighten up will ya.
Author canadadry Posted October 13, 2008 Author Posted October 13, 2008 Thnx for the replies. About her being a silly girl, well I've always had relationships with women my age or older women and so maybe thats why I'm not used to this. I mentioned her giggly part because it reminds me of a highschool girl. This leads me to wonder, am I being borderline pedophile? That is my biggest issue and I guess my question rephrased would be, what do you think of the age gap. Now that I think about it, if women are statistically more mature than guys, then maybe all my previous girlfriends saw me the same way I view this young girl. Hmm.
Geishawhelk Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Ah. Yes, there is that..... The age-gap is of no consequence. Just have some fun and see where it goes! BTW, there's 5 years between my partner and me..... He's 5 years younger.
joshaz Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 I disagree... 18 is pretty young. You can bet she is still pretty dependent (not just financially) on her folks. I agree 5 years isn't that big of a deal, but most freshman are generally pretty immature. Not sure what your drinking laws are, but that could also be an issue.
Jersey Shortie Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 I don't think there is a huge age difference if you are 23 and she is 18. Yes, you have a little more experience and yes, you shouldn't take advantage of that. But I really don't see the issue if you like her. Treat her right and treat her with respect. I hate to tell you but I am a few years older then you and there are tons of things guys do that are "guy stuff" that seems lame and immature, even at my age. The girl likes to sing songs? Holy crap, what an immature brat!!! ... Just teasing. She sounds like she is playful and light heartened. If you look down on her because of it, don't date her. If you can respect her and treat her right, go for it.
Red_Shoes Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 So you are worried the "maturity levels won't be equal" yet your first criterion for not dating a freshman is that 18 year olds "look too young"? And that she makes "girl noises"? Regarding your "age and experience" at 23 you must of course be very wise and worldly. In short, no I don't think you are too old for her
Green Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 seriously other then for sex purposes I wouldn't think to seriously about any girls under 21
Nemo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 seriously other then for sex purposes What other "purposes" are there??
Citizen Erased Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 What other "purposes" are there?? Snorting cocaine off their bajingos?
Nemo Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 Snorting cocaine off their bajingos? Good point. How could anybody get high on lust alone.
Author canadadry Posted October 15, 2008 Author Posted October 15, 2008 Thanks for the replies. Ok fine. I do some pretty retarded stuff too, so I'm not claiming to be the most responsible human being. What I am saying though is that I think there is a different mindset between an 18 yr old and a 23 yr old. I can deal with her acting her age. (and her gaggle of friends also acting their age) But it just reminds me of how young she is. If someone told you how they know this guy, 23 yrs old and he's getting with some freshman chick - what would you think? I don't want to be known as the pedophile guy. Hopefully someone here can tell me how ethical it is to get with a girl who is straight out of highschool. Am I being thoughtful and considerate? Or am I just making this needlessly complicated?
Sysyphus28 Posted October 15, 2008 Posted October 15, 2008 I onced vowed never to get with a freshman college girl. Reasons include: -they look too young -maturity levels probably wont be equal -I feel like it's too easy and that I am being exploitative by using my age and experience Then I met this girl while doing laundry. She's hot, the intellectual type, and she likes me(?!). I've never experienced this combo in person before. Her cons are she still acts like a highschooler sometimes. It gets really annoying when she sings stupid songs or when she makes all these girl noises when she's with her friends. (heheh I am NOT trying to be insensitive here, just trying to get my impression across) I heard of something called the hand rule, where if you can count the age difference between you and her in one hand, then its all good. I barely make this cut. Should I pursue this? It will be fun, but the young ones Break hearts like nobody's business!
Recommended Posts