jimbo Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 So, as you can see in my previous posts, that I am kinda perplexed on this new relationship, and I am assessing the situation. Please keep in mind, as with everything else i do in life, I over analysis things more than they should be. Probably due to my OCD. Anyways, I do not think I have been friend-zoned yet. Here's the reasoning on this assumption. On both times we met, we met in a place which was half way for each. About 30 min. drive for both of us. If I was friend-zoned, why would she had driven 30 mins just to meet me? I do take longer than most to move on to the next step of the relationship, but once that has been met, kissing is no longer a problem for me. Again, the stress of leading up to it is probably what makes me look at other ways around it. However, even though we were talking and laughing through each date, the end of the last one was bewildering. Again, she said she really enjoyed my company (that may had been my opening) and then left. I think I said the same and thank you or something. I zoned at after I parked the car. Not sure why. Zoned back in after I pulled away. As I pulled away, I realized what I had done. Could not really go back, I would look even dumber. Going to wait a couple of days and reach out and see if I can get to go to another dinner or something. If I get it, I'll then go for broke and see what's what. The beginning and mid of the date was better than the ending. Hope I did not turn her off completely by the ending....
Star Gazer Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Anyways, I do not think I have been friend-zoned yet. Here's the reasoning on this assumption. On both times we met, we met in a place which was half way for each. About 30 min. drive for both of us. If I was friend-zoned, why would she had driven 30 mins just to meet me? Um, because friends SPLIT things. Tabs, distance... However, even though we were talking and laughing through each date, the end of the last one was bewildering. Again, she said she really enjoyed my company (that may had been my opening) and then left. I think I said the same and thank you or something. I zoned at after I parked the car. Not sure why. Zoned back in after I pulled away. As I pulled away, I realized what I had done. Could not really go back, I would look even dumber. Going to wait a couple of days and reach out and see if I can get to go to another dinner or something. If I get it, I'll then go for broke and see what's what. What do you mean by "zoned"? Sounds like you're speaking a secret language here. The beginning and mid of the date was better than the ending. Hope I did not turn her off completely by the ending.... Are you sure it was even a "date" to begin with? How did these outings come about? What did you do? Who paid?
Author jimbo Posted October 13, 2008 Author Posted October 13, 2008 I paid for dinner the first date. She paid for the second date at the museum. About the same price. Zoned out, wasn't listening completely. We made plans over the phone and thru txting.
lofi_tokyo Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 It could be that this girl just moves slowly in relationships, each girl has her own pace, and it can be tricky to figure out. For instance, my best friend has been single for about 2 yrs and finally found a guy she wants to date seriously. So, when she found him? She didn't waste any time making her intentions clear. Her first date with him was her asking him to tell her about studying abroad, because she was "interested", the next was a group hangout going to improv - I was there! Before her third date she told me "I hope he wants to come over for a movie tonight", and sure enough he did, they fooled around, they talked about liking eachother, and the next day at school he picked her up from class, gave her a kiss on the head, held her hand and they became an item. As for me? I really like the guy I'm dating. A lot. Buttt my last relationship wasnt that long ago, it was super serious and fairly confining, and I'm just looking for a guy to date where I don't always have to think about the issues we're having, or going to have... so I'm taking it very slow. She may just be in a position, like myself, maybe not freshly out of a relationship, but definately willing to date you, but willing to taking it slowly because she doesn't want things to move at mach speed. Hard to say though! ;p
Author jimbo Posted October 13, 2008 Author Posted October 13, 2008 Yes, she said her last relationship lasted like for 2 years or so. That is why I thought it would be better to take this slow and let her lead. However, if like the last relationship I was in, she said I moved too slow. How can you tell if you are moving too slow or too fast? I do not want to be too aggressive, then again, I do not want to be too passive. She did get back to me this morning about doing something together, that as positive I guess.
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