lofi_tokyo Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 I don't like my ex. He is not good dating material! He really is not! BUT! I cant help missing him terribly!!! WHY!? My life is much better now - how I've always wanted it. Maybe, I feel like now that I've got what I want and my life is in a good place, I want my ex back. Who knows. Hes with a new girl, and he doesn't need to talk to me anymore, doubt he cares to. I'm totally annoyed. Mostly with myself. I acknowledge and accept the situation, but I keep clinging to this twisted hope he'll miss me and want me back. Which is stupid because I know hes not a good man, and not the right person for me. Its like 60% of me is walking away from him and being like "good bye loser" and 40% is desperately wanting him back. I know the solution is no contact, I know the solution is to actively move on. But, even with no contact, I find myself constantly scheming on how SOMEDAY hes gonna regret letting me go, and hes going to grovel, and I won't give a damn about him. Hes been dating this girl for only a month and a half - they started dating right after we broke up. So I guess, how can he miss me if I wont go away, if I wont move on? He cant and wont, especially when hes in the beginning of a new exciting relationship. So I need to move on, but I'm crazy! Ahhh!
Author lofi_tokyo Posted October 13, 2008 Author Posted October 13, 2008 Whew, oddly, just saying that made me feel better ;p
JooLee Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 i truly understand what you mean.. its been 4 months for me and im only 75% moving on and the other 35% still hoping he'll come back. its stupid especially since he's alredi dating someone for one and a half months as well.. and he tells her he loves her. it still hurts when i hear someone mention about him. sometimes i think the only reason im holding on is myself, that to have had all those memories and emotion and energy on one person and to jus forget about it is painful as well. sigh.. i just wish i had one last day with him, to have my own closure. i need a closure. guess maybe we need a closure.
You'reasian Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 I don't like my ex. He is not good dating material! He really is not! BUT! I cant help missing him terribly!!! WHY!? My life is much better now - how I've always wanted it. Maybe, I feel like now that I've got what I want and my life is in a good place, I want my ex back. Who knows. Hes with a new girl, and he doesn't need to talk to me anymore, doubt he cares to. I'm totally annoyed. Mostly with myself. I acknowledge and accept the situation, but I keep clinging to this twisted hope he'll miss me and want me back. Which is stupid because I know hes not a good man, and not the right person for me. Its like 60% of me is walking away from him and being like "good bye loser" and 40% is desperately wanting him back. I know the solution is no contact, I know the solution is to actively move on. But, even with no contact, I find myself constantly scheming on how SOMEDAY hes gonna regret letting me go, and hes going to grovel, and I won't give a damn about him. Hes been dating this girl for only a month and a half - they started dating right after we broke up. So I guess, how can he miss me if I wont go away, if I wont move on? He cant and wont, especially when hes in the beginning of a new exciting relationship. So I need to move on, but I'm crazy! Ahhh! Do you have a history of ex-es coming back to you? That could reinforce the feelings that you have and the outcome of your separation, since you are obviously a good catch. Best thing to do is move forward, stay positive and focus on your own dating life. Best of luck.
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