Tryng2Trust08 Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Im in a kind of tough situation....I have been dating a nice guy for about 6 months now and for the past month or so things have been really back and forth mostly on my part, and he has made every effort and attempt to make things work. But the truth is we both know this relationship isn't going anywhere for several reasons. We still do things and hang out every so often though and talk everyday. I think Im ready to stop talking so much and hanging out and having a sexual relationship, but I do not want to hurt his feelings. He thinks I am completely miserable with him and has suggessted to me maybe he isnt the right one for me. He is right, I have been miserable , Im not ready for a relationship at all and I really need time alone. Should I come out and tell him this or just continue seeing him (its only like once every 2 weeks) and talking and just casually develop a friendship instead of dating?
Geishawhelk Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Look. If you're together, and both miserable, (albeit for different reasons!) it's obvious something needs to chnge. Let me ask this.... Picture yourself a year down the line, still with him. How does that feel? if you get an "ugh!" or a chill down your spine - there's your answer. You need to end this. Kindly, gently and with no animosity. But it's over in your heart. Make it over in his.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted October 12, 2008 Author Posted October 12, 2008 Look. If you're together, and both miserable, (albeit for different reasons!) it's obvious something needs to chnge. Let me ask this.... Picture yourself a year down the line, still with him. How does that feel? if you get an "ugh!" or a chill down your spine - there's your answer. You need to end this. Kindly, gently and with no animosity. But it's over in your heart. Make it over in his. I know what I have to do, just really afraid to do it. I hate hurting someone's feelings and I really value our friendship more than anything. He said me being miserable is making him miserable. He just keeps trying and trying for me.....
You'reasian Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Im in a kind of tough situation....I have been dating a nice guy for about 6 months now and for the past month or so things have been really back and forth mostly on my part, and he has made every effort and attempt to make things work. But the truth is we both know this relationship isn't going anywhere for several reasons. We still do things and hang out every so often though and talk everyday. I think Im ready to stop talking so much and hanging out and having a sexual relationship, but I do not want to hurt his feelings. He thinks I am completely miserable with him and has suggessted to me maybe he isnt the right one for me. He is right, I have been miserable , Im not ready for a relationship at all and I really need time alone. Should I come out and tell him this or just continue seeing him (its only like once every 2 weeks) and talking and just casually develop a friendship instead of dating? Tell him. You owe it to yourself, right?
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