D-Lish Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 I have a first date tonight with a guy who is the same height as me (he says 5'8" on his profile). Should I wear flats? Or just stick with the kind of shoes I normally like to wear that will make me taller than him? I don't care about being a bit taller- wondering if he would be bothered by it...? I hope 5'8" doesn't mean 5'6"! Suggestions?
BentSpine Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 You don't become taller by wearing heels anymore than someone one floor above is taller than you: You're simply on a platform. I have seen quite a few women wearing heels while dancing ballroom with their significant other. And because ot the heels, the women tower above their partners. Surely the women must have gotten over the height issue. If you chose to wear heels, one advantage for the man is that he can be amused by how onlookers look at him real hard. You can practically see them wondering: "What great trait does he obviously have to attract this taller woman!?" Hope you'll have a good time.
jerbear Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Heels... lets see if he can handle a "taller" woman. Confidence baby! Confidence!
Shygirl15 Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Wow, he's definitely 5'6". You'll have to get back to us afterwards and confirm this, lol. I hate looking taller than my date so I would have gone for flats and stay safe. However, heels are very flattering and would have looked sexy on you.
Walk Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Heels... lets see if he can handle a "taller" woman. Confidence baby! Confidence! I agree! If he can't handle the fact that a woman with heels on is taller then he is, then his height is more of an issue then simple shoes will fix. Then you start getting into napoleon complexes and inferiority complexes.
Trialbyfire Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Wear heels D, otherwise if you two hit it off, you'll never get to wear heels! No platforms though.
Lizzie60 Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Wear whatever you're comfortable in.. or to match your outfit.. My bet is that he's shorter than 5'8" .... women lie about their age.. men lie about their height..
Author D-Lish Posted October 12, 2008 Author Posted October 12, 2008 Wear whatever you're comfortable in.. or to match your outfit.. My bet is that he's shorter than 5'8" .... women lie about their age.. men lie about their height.. I agree Lizzie! That has happened to me many times! I think I will go with heels. My boots are 2 inches- so nothing major. But I think people are right- I love having some height with my shoes... so I should just do it right off the bat!
Angel1111 Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 I used to date a short guy and he loved it that I wore heels. Actually, I'd never give up my heels so if I dated someone who had a problem with it, we'd have to part ways. Don't get into a pattern of changing who you are because it may bug someone else. Just be you. That's the only thing that ever works.
jerbear Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Wear whatever you're comfortable in.. or to match your outfit.. My boots are 2 inches- so nothing major. But I think people are right- I love having some height with my shoes... so I should just do it right off the bat! Black boots and a bat. D, I didn't know you were that type...
Author D-Lish Posted October 12, 2008 Author Posted October 12, 2008 Black boots and a bat. D, I didn't know you were that type... yes you did Jer:eek: haha. He just moved here from Ireland- I so love that accent.
carhill Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Heels can be hot Correction: Heels are hot D-lish, I see this as win-win; if there's mutual attraction, it'll just accentuate it. If not, you'll still look hawt
Geishawhelk Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 You think you have problems! I'm 4' 10" and I can't wear heels due to a spinal injury. So it's flats and trousers for me all the time now! (someone once asked me, "what's the worst thing about being so short?" I looked up at him, and replied - "Being able to see right up people's noses...." He's never hung around too close, since.....! )
Jilly Bean Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 He's probably 5'5", Dee. I don't think it will matter what shoes you wear. Knowing how you feel about the height thing, I don't think you'll be attracted to a short dude anyhow.
Meaplus3 Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Wear what's most comfy for you. Have fun. AP:)
jerbear Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 He's probably 5'5", Dee. I don't think it will matter what shoes you wear. Knowing how you feel about the height thing, I don't think you'll be attracted to a short dude anyhow. Just hope she doesn't end up on the short end of the stick. I know I know...
You'reasian Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Hey, nothing wrong with the Irish. That gives me an idea - I'm gonna start saying that I'm 5'6" on my profile
jerbear Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 yes you did Jer:eek: haha. yeah, still trying to recover from those welts. :lmao:
raclar Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Wear whatever will make you feel most comfortable and enable you to feel relaxed and be yourself! Don't change yourself for the guy!
Jilly Bean Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 I just heard from her royal fabulousness. She asked me to report back to everyone that he is 5'7", but cute! More later directly from her... Man, why is that guys are generally off on their *measurements* by 3" or so?
carhill Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Man, why is that guys are generally off on their *measurements* by 3" or so? Well, using a combination of my laser level and laser distance measurement device, I discovered I've shrunk 5/8" since my early twenties to a height of 5'10 3/8". Gotta love modern technology
john06 Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Heels!!! Men like women who wears heels and it doesn't matter if your taller than him. And you should look nice on your first date because first impression is the most important thing in dating.
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