UnamedSeven Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 I will try to make this as short as possible: I've only known this girl for about a month and i already told her i liked her. She just broke up with her boyfriend, and doesn't want to have a relationship, right now. Its been 2 weeks since i told her, and she has been acting weird around me, and every time i ask her whats wrong, she says there isn't anything wrong, and that she is just sick. I feel that i should just not put my life on hold for this girl, b/c im afraid i will be heartbroken. I was going to tell her this, just so that i may be able to get her to say to me if she likes me or not. At this point, all i want is the truth from her. What should i do?
Ronni_W Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Ask if she is feeling any better? And if she'd like you to bring some chicken soup or aspirin or something?? And then, when you are sure that she is no longer sick, ask if it has made her feel uncomfortable in any way, that you mentioned that you like her.
Author UnamedSeven Posted October 13, 2008 Author Posted October 13, 2008 Ask if she is feeling any better? And if she'd like you to bring some chicken soup or aspirin or something?? And then, when you are sure that she is no longer sick, ask if it has made her feel uncomfortable in any way, that you mentioned that you like her. Well, i have no idea what she has been trying to get at. But, its been affecting our friendship. She's been acting like shes completely depressed and when i ask her, she says she is fine. I just wish i knew why.
ed-205 Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 IME, a woman seldom breaks up with a guy until she has the next one lined up and waiting in the wings. She may be uncomfortable around you because she doesn't want to it generally known that she already has someone else before she's ready to announce it on her own, or maybe she knows you've liked her for awhile, and is afraid of 'hurting' you by passing you over for someone else. I'm not sure why some women act this way, but I've seen it done many times, and heard a thousand different excuses for it. By all means, give her a chance if you really like her, but don't let her lead you on.
Angel1111 Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Just diappear for awhile so that she'll stop this "I'm just sick" thing. And I don't mean having some deep, meaningful conversation with her about it. I mean, just stop being available and stop being around her so much. This usually wakes people up because by your actions, you're telling her that you will live your life just fine, with or without her. That kind of statement speaks volumes to people and you never had to say a word.
DollWelch Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 At this point, all i want is the truth from her. What should i do? You will have to be patient. She's just come out of a relationship, and needs time to heal and think about her next step in life. If you push her too much, she will distance herself from you. In the end, you'll lose her. Be supportive and all, but don't ask her how she feels just yet. Make an effort to get to really know her in the next few weeks/months before you make any moves.
Author UnamedSeven Posted October 14, 2008 Author Posted October 14, 2008 You will have to be patient. She's just come out of a relationship, and needs time to heal and think about her next step in life. If you push her too much, she will distance herself from you. In the end, you'll lose her. Be supportive and all, but don't ask her how she feels just yet. Make an effort to get to really know her in the next few weeks/months before you make any moves. You see, the thing about it is, that she told me that she moved to where i am, in June and broke up with her boyfriend then. i guess she needs more time...? Thanks for the help also. Its very well appreciated
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