NickP Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 almost 1 year ago -> She cheated on me then we went NC for 4 months. then she contacted me again asking for another chance.. when I said that we should be friends first, she bailed and said she couldn't do it.. and I was SHOCKED cos I thought that she would even want to be friends first and see how things went from there.. at least that would give her a chance right? 1 week ago-> i ***d it up. She bailed 3 months ago but she did send me an email on my birthday. so last week, i replied to that email, tho I was 2 months late on it. She replied and we've been chatting via email 4-5 times in the past week. Today-> she suddenly added me on msn.. and we started talking. she kept on talking down on me like a mother would do to a long lost child, and before I knew it, emotions poured out of me like a sad bas**rd and I told her that I think we've got a shot at getting back together again only if she knew how to do it the right way. BUt then she dropped the bomb.. she refused to tell me, but after i prodded, she said she was seeing someone else. She claimed to "not care for him" but she was just "seeing him" and they weren't "officially bfgf" ... what the hell does that mean??? she kept on apologising.. saying that she was "sorry for putting me through this" .. and that she wants me to be happy, because she's trying to be. what is going on???????? i was devastated immediately.. i curse myself for getting back in touch with her! i should NOT have emailed her.. though I was certain that I wanted to be friends with her. Frankly though, I always hoped that maybe one day whilst we were friends we might give it another shot.. or I might see enough of a change in her to give her another shot.. She called her new guy now an "*******" saying that he doesn't care whether she and I talk or not. What is thiss?? Is she lying to mee?? Obviously she is right.. I mean she said she was seeing him.. so how can he not care? how can she claim he isn't her bf when she said she's "seeing him" .. how can she not call him her boyfriend when she's seeing him?? Is she hiding things from me? Am I becoming a "needy" ex-bf? because I never wanted to bee.. I actually wanted to be just friends first before all these emotions came flooding back and I lost it. Please share your thoughts. ANYTHING would suffice. nick
Kim666 Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 First let me say I do not think you are stupid..I think you really care for this person who seems to be able unfortunately to pull your strings to make you dance, just as my ex was able to do with me. My advice you sound like too nice of a guy to be chasing after her. Move on and find someone that will love you for you and not hurt you intentionally. Good luck to you
Geishawhelk Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Go NC. Stay NC. Move on, move up, move out, delete her off everything. No 'phone calls. No e-mails. No MSN. No texts. Nuthin. Give yourself time to get over this. She's coming back to you, for one reason, and one reason alone. because she knows she can.
EmperorR Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Go NC. Stay NC. Move on, move up, move out, delete her off everything. No 'phone calls. No e-mails. No MSN. No texts. Nuthin. Give yourself time to get over this. She's coming back to you, for one reason, and one reason alone. because she knows she can. yupAgree 100 percent
Amiss Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Hi Nick, I htimk you should go NC again and delete all her messages etc She is playing mindgames and probably enjoying the sex with her new bf , and the emotional attention she is receiving from you. Don't be her back up , I have seen plenty of women use a man until someone "better" comes along. It will be hard for you as giving up on a dream usually is , but you must. Good luck.X
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