meganislegend Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. When we first started dating, things were great. We hung out all the time, he called me 10 times a day, always said i love you a few times a day, he bought me cute presents and flowers, and he even bought me a diamond ring for my birthday when we were only dating for 2 months! However, the last few months have been horrible. His schedule isn't much different from when we first started dating, so I've been racking my brain up trying to figure out why he doesn't want to see me anymore. I've had many talks with him about it, and he'll come through for a few days, but then he'll just go back to not seeing me. He used to always say I love you first but now I have to drag it out of him. Again, I talked to him about it, he came through, but went back to not saying it. I talked to him last week about how unloved by him I'm feeling, and things have got to change, and that actions speak louder than words. Again, he came through, but a few days later, it was back to feeling unloved. He used to always call and text all day long until a few days ago, and since thursday, we've gone hours and hours through the day without saying a word to eachother, and I told him that i don't think that's cool. And he said sorry, and said he'd call me before he goes to sleep last night, but he didn't. Also, he usually texts me to say good morning when he's up, but he hasn't today. I don't want to force myself on him, so that's why I'm not going to call/text first. I just don't know if he's lost interest or what. Or if he is just really busy and can't find time for me like he used to. I feel like a broken record saying all these things to him, because I've talked about it time and time again. He usually sounds genuinely sorry about all these things I've brought up to him, but I'm getting huge mixed signals. I don't want to break up with him at all, I love him so much, but I can't keep feeling like this. How can I get him to be how he used to towards me? Please help! I'm going crazy!
Yamaha Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 I just don't know if he's lost interest I think you know the answer. You just don't want to accept it but deep down you know he is either looking at someone else or he just doesn't have the same interest in you. Don't blame yourself as these things just happen in dating but don't hang around and make yourself seem needy and desperate. Just let it fall off naturally ( don't call him ) and learn to accept that it's probably over.
norajane Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Besides saying he's sorry, has he offered any explanation of WHY his attention has declined?
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