Brimstone_Angel Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 eHarmony was not for me, I guess. I neither liked the endless questionnaires nor my matches. Match is so-so, but maybe better than the damn eHarmony. Has anybody tried Yahoo Personals? I've tried Yahoo and never got one hit. I am sure you'll get plenty of hits because you are female. But, guys like me you would just ignore. That what stinks about the whole guy trying to find a gal thing.
Jenny123 Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Hi, I'm on facebook which has an application r u interested? iT'S free, haven't met the guy i'm talking to yet- but def. have had a lot of fun being on it:) Friends have also been on this- good reports!
D-Jam Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 If you're a woman, then either site will work fine for you and in your favor. If you're an attractive woman, then you will get a lot of attention. If you're an extremely attractive woman then it's hit or miss. You might get a lot of attention or no attention, because guys on the site will be intimidated by you. If you're an ugly woman, then it's also hit or miss. Some places I see women complain no one emails them, and others where they get more attention than the "hot women". Just be sure to have a positive, happy, fun, and interesting profile. No "sick of the games" or insecurity profiles. Also be sure to grow a thick skin...because you will see a lot of weirdos, insecure little boys, liars, etc. You might get emailed by the guy you're not into, reply a polite rejection, and then he blows up on you...or emails you 10 times asking "WHY????" Same deal if you not reply at all. You might get an attractive male emailing you and find out after a few dates or chats that he's married. Most women I see delete profiles and run the minute they see trouble...hence why I say to grow a thick skin. If you're a man, then it's always hit or miss. If you're very attractive and/or have some "game", then you might score a lot of dates. If you're average or ugly and have "eh" game or no game...then don't spend your money. You're throwing $30 a month away to just get rejected like you would in a bar. The odds are stacked against you if you're a man. Generally on these sites it's 5-10 men for every woman on there. It's a lot of competition to get that reply email, and I hate to sound like a cynic, but I have seen more failure from online dating than I've seen success. Seems like 100 dissatisfied males for every 1 male who found love. I also suggest to the OP to join a pay site, and maybe a few free sites. Even try the speed dating thing another suggested. Better to have many lines in the water to catch fish than just one.
alphamale Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Eharmony or match.com? Any reason why I SHOULDN'T? do it? yes, they are both terrible, especially eScam-Your-Money
Groovy Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 Match.com seemed to be full of men with commitment issues. E-harmony was hit or miss but my dates made me feel less like they were trying to get me drunk and in bed. Some of the men were very sweet. Match.com's chintzy almost free cost that requires nothing attracts men playing the field, E-harmony subscription costs and long questionnaires tend to be tolerated by the men who are really hoping to be matched. I made a friend on Match.com for 6 years now. But he will never grow up and seems like so many men on match. Guys on E-harmony were more ready but just not marriage material for me. I also tried Christianmingle.com where I got engaged. Unfortunately he was financially unresponsible yet felt we should share bank accounts as a married couple and I just didn't feel like losing my house. But I think the Christian web sites offer something as well, if you are a Christian. Those men are not usually looking to sleep around (though there are a few). You just need to watch out for these extreme radicals! That's my take on it. I expect nothing but good food and maybe that I will see them again. Overall it's been dissapointing for me as I am still single but I have heard a few success stories!
movingonandon Posted December 8, 2008 Posted December 8, 2008 For some reason eHarmony seems to send me very dull people or people who actually seem wildly inappropriate matches for me. I think of the three different times I've used eH, I have only met one guy in person. I find Match much easier in terms of searching for people and contacting them. I also don't like the idea of some algorithm, some computer program, deciding which people are good for me and filtering out everyone else. I agree 100% - eHarmony is CREEPY. All these "comunication steps" freak me out. Also, I think that there is a major self-selectoin effect there - people who have more trouble leading normal conversation are more likely to choose such elaborate and creepy dating service. Oh, and also it is expensive as f***k (for guys). Avoid at all costs. Match.com is ok. I've got a lot of dates through there. I'm still pining over one tiny latina that stopped returning my calls. I like plenty of fish too. Finally, low expectations is key, and occasionally you get pleasantly surprised.
Isolde Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I actually think POF is a step below craigs. I don't know why so many people like it.
itgirlragdoll Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I met my current boyfriend of 7 months on okcupid. He was the first and only person I met on there and it's working out amazingly. They gave us a match of like 87% or something crazy like that and it turned out to be true...we get along so well! I have never quite "clicked" with a person the way I do with him (both on a romantic and friendship level). I also met him only a few days after I signed up! Sure everyone won't have such luck, but for what it's worth, it gets glowing endorsements from me!
ABrokenWing Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Hmm I'd never heard of plentyoffish.com. Looks legit. Lots of people on there, and it looks to be free. It is. I have a profile up there. Been contacted a handful of times, but no dates as of yet.....I have a feeling I may be getting a little picky....or I'm just scared of dating...
alphamale Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Guys on E-harmony were more ready but just not marriage material for me. so, basically they were nerds
Posco_Proudfoot Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 It is. I have a profile up there. Been contacted a handful of times, but no dates as of yet.....I have a feeling I may be getting a little picky....or I'm just scared of dating... Would it be fair to say that the men to women ration is about 20 to 1?
MN randomguy Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I had some success on match. Its not that hard to get dates. Its cheaper and easier to talk to women there then to go out drinking meeting women. E-Harmony sucks. They don't let you see anyone's picture before you sign-up. There is a reason for this. It won't even let you choose a body type preference. If you're really young OK Cupid is cool. Its fun to do all of the tests, etc. It is mainly college girls in my area. Anyone do Yahoo personals? There's some decent attractive but not model type women on that site. What D-Jam said about being ridiculously attractive and on the web is suspicious. I don't waste too much time w/them. They've either got major issues to be online, or, they're just doing it for ego boost and probably aren't even paying members.
D-Jam Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 MN randomguy, I'm glad you got success. My experiences were trying Yahoo years ago...but a month after signing up authorities uncovered that scam Yahoo and Match were running where they loaded their sites with fake profiles and even hired women to date some of the men to keep them on the site. My personal experience with Yahoo was more like Bells' experiences on dating sites. I sent out over 100 emails and never received one reply outside of some people trying to pull a Russian bride scam on me. A few years later, I tried a combination of Match.com, Plentyoffish, and a local site called ChicagoMixer.com. Match gave me the same results as Yahoo. Loads of emails sent with no reply. Chicagomixer was the same result, plus it didn't have a whole lot of women on there to begin with (but it was a free site). Plentyoffish I did get some replies, but it was usually one reply and then when I replied back the woman never contacted me again. I also strangely had some women who lived hours away contact me. I'm not even getting into attraction or not...but I found it strange some wanted me to drive 4-6 hours to see them. I did go on two dates with two women off the site, but in the end they felt more "forced". Plus I also felt like these women I really didn't feel a whole lot of chemistry with, they just "looked good on paper". Made me wonder then if I was just desperate to date, or find Ms Right. That was when I got off those sites. With Match and Yahoo, I often question how many of those female profiles are real or even paying subscribers. I remember when I got off both Match and Yahoo, I'd get emails saying "you received an email from someone...sign back up and read who's contacted you." It made me wonder if women who do the "free profile" simply receive this...thus not knowing who contacted them or anything...then Yahoo and Match show this free profile as if it's a woman you can contact and date. So as a man you could end up sending out 100 emails to women who never will receive your emails and/or may not have even touched that web site for months (despite the site claiming this person was "recently online") I even felt that any female profile where she did not describe what she wanted in a man was a dead giveaway to be a dummy account/abandoned free profile. Anyway, I'm glad some men find success...but in these online chats on message boards and review sites, I tend to notice most of the reviews are men who went through similar scenarios as mine. Thus why I think the online dating sites are a good concept, but badly implemented in the name of making money...rather than a solid product.
Rebellious Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I tried Match.com for a month a couple of years ago. I found it to be a big scam and a waste of time, I think all the PAID online dating companies are scams. Personally, I do much better in person, Golds gym is great too, you get to check out their ASSets right away.
Shygirl15 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I've tried Yahoo and never got one hit. I am sure you'll get plenty of hits because you are female. But, guys like me you would just ignore. That what stinks about the whole guy trying to find a gal thing. Actually I have used Yahoo and liked it very much. Met my current BF there. I think it's cheaper than the rest, interractions are more real, cool guys, plus women get 7 days free pass. If I was to go back online, definitely will be Yahoo Personals. I'm just surprised it's not talked about as much as eH and Match. Anyone do Yahoo personals? There's some decent attractive but not model type women on that site I don't know. Most of us everyday people are not necessarily looking for model types, just decent attractiveness that balances with other good criterias.
Shygirl15 Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 My experiences were trying Yahoo years ago...but a month after signing up authorities uncovered that scam Yahoo and Match were running where they loaded their sites with fake profiles You know, that could be true. I found out later on that my profile still came up in searches even after I completely deleted it. I had to let them know of this.
Bells Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I actually think POF is a step below craigs. I don't know why so many people like it. Huh? I thought Craigs List was THE lowest when it came to dating, what makes you think that? LOL
Perry Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I haven't read the entire thread, so I don't know if this has been mentioned, but why not do all the sites?
D-Jam Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I haven't read the entire thread, so I don't know if this has been mentioned, but why not do all the sites? Cuz some of them cost $20-$30 a month. That'll get costly to do multiple sites.
dilly Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Ive pretty much tried all the sites. Paid for adult friendfinder, eharmony, match and true.com , tried all the other sites too. With true.com, I took them up on a free 8 day pass. Got e-mailed back from a pretty hot girl in my area and right when we were supposed to hook up my free membership was due so I signed up for a membership. Well surprise. Never heard from her again. I called to cancel the account but was talked into a free month. I actually did meet a couple of girls that I dated for a few months. Eharmony totally sucks. I always get matched up with older ladies that I don't even find attractive. I have never been patient enough to go through all the questioneers so I haven't met anyone. Match has been good so far. I have met a a lot of really cool girls that I've dated a few months each off that site. I have a friend that is having the worst luck off match. She is really attractive and gets a lot of emails and winks everyday. The past 4 dates she has gotten off of match the guys were at least 50 pounds heavier than the pics they put up. All of their pics were old - the liars. She has given up on online dating. Adultfriendfinder is just for laughs. Just seeing if I could get some fun without the commitment. So far only met one girl and not my type even for one night...uggg.
dilly Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 Most of the really hot model looking girls on the site especially on yahoo are fake. Most of them are the Nigerian scams trying to get additional money from you. When you send them mail from the site and they reply back asking you to e-mail them directly on a different e-mail account, you can bet its a scam.
D-Jam Posted December 9, 2008 Posted December 9, 2008 I still think these sites need to work more on building a better product over marketing. They can do chemistry, quizzes, personality profiles, and such to death...but it's pointless if people are lying and/or if the more "normal" single folk are not trying these sites out. Here's what I'd do to improve the sites: 1) Allow anyone who isn't a member or anything to browse, search, and look at profiles. Give them a real look at who is on these sites, rather than a tease. 2) Either give all women FREE accounts...in order to get more women to join, or have it that no one can post photos on a free profile. Basically make it that they can't use the free profiles to boost their image, and they have to go all out to get the singles...rather than fool lonely men to sign up. 3) Do like True.com and have background checks on all members. So people who are ex convicts, pedophiles, or married folk cannot join. 4) Use the staff who they hire to talk to you on the phone to convince you to stay to instead be moderators. When someone lies or misleads members, then the members can email the mods about it. If someone gets numerous complaints, like "pictures are fake", then they can ban said user. 5) Require a good face shot and a good body shot in the photos. If they don't provide it the mod won't allow their profile to be seen. 6) Have it that people can then put anonymous reviews of profiles up. So let's say a girl comes to my profile, she can rate it, and even put in anonymously what she liked and disliked. The strength of that is the user can possibly see what he/she is doing wrong. They can get all defensive, or they can possibly listen and learn how to market themselves better. 7) Allow users to set up dates and rate them through the site. What happens then is users don't have to hand out personal contact info, but also are now set up to be out on a date. So if a guy stands a girl up, she can put that in a review, or if he turns into a psychopath because she won't go on a second date, then that can be added. Mods of course will keep it from being abused...like a guy who gets rejected, so he cooks up a story about how she played games or something. PLUS...if someone blows someone off, it gets added. A repeat performance on several members will then have a mark put on that profile for others to see. 8) Forget body types. Just put height and weight in as numbers. Even if they lie on the numbers, they can't lie on the photos. I know a lot of this sounds very "gestapo", but I would advertise this site as "for serious people". The idea that you come on here looking to find love, but you also aren't going to lie or hide who you are, and you will be kicked out if you are part of the problem. So if you're a creepy guy you will eventually get booted. If your profile sucks, people will tell you. If you don't post clear photos, you won't get to use the site. If you send an email, then the person will receive it, despite if they reply or not.
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