mswonderful Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 So I have given up on meeting someone in person any time soon and I am considering a dating site. Eharmony or match.com? Any reason why I SHOULDN'T? do it?
V.Vixen Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 I am pretty much a guru on online dating at this point. lol I have done all of them and I like Match.com the best. None of the guys I have dated have turned into relationships, but I have gotten a lot of dates, and many that go on to second or third dates. My advice is this: Don't go into it with high expectations. Have fun with it. Meet people. Enjoy the dates, but never have huge expectations. I enjoy it. I have even made quite a few friends from guys that I dated. I just never take the first meeting too seriously, and have had a lot of fun dates that way. Good luck!
V.Vixen Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 oh, and here are the things I enjoy .. you get the whole "getting to know you" thing out of the way before you even meet. This can be both good and bad though, because sometimes you think you really like someone and the chemistry isn't there in person. For the most part I like that I don't have the awkward icebreaker moment in person. My main reason why I do online dating and probably will continue to do it (along with traditional dating) is because I am busy. I don't go to a lot of new places, so the same people usually go to the places I go to. I have work, school, and the occasional bar or grocery store.. but that's really it. Online dating gives you so many options that you wouldn't otherwise have. You just have to weed through some weirdos, but that is where patience and persistence pay off. Just be safe about it.
jimbo Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Try POF.com (Plentyoffish.com). The service is free and as good as Snatch.com or the later.
rod_in_gtown Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Try speed dating. I don't like either Match.com or eHarmony. and I've tried both.
purplewitch Posted November 17, 2008 Posted November 17, 2008 Oh, my first post! Well, I think it's like the lottery. If you don't buy a ticket, you won't win! My cousin met the absolute love of her life on eHarmony so while I haven't tried it yet, it did work for her. I think she sent me a code so I'll dig it up if that helps, too and pm it to you. Good luck.
purplewitch Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Whoops. I can't figure out how to PM you so here is the info... I found the email my cousin sent. She used this code and it saved her 25% on the eharmony subscription. She said it gives you a month free when you sign up for 3 months. But she said she changed her subscription when she met her current beau and that was okay to do. (lesser time) Hope this helps you find love! Oh.. the code is EHROCK. Okay. Have a great week.
Love_Forest Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 match is fine to me. I got plenty of dates from there, the difficulty is that too many people write at once and I have hard time planing to meet everyone there. I am still looking to find the right one.
Charles1978 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Hmm I'd never heard of plentyoffish.com. Looks legit. Lots of people on there, and it looks to be free.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 A friend met her H on POF. For the longest time I thought it was plenty offish, finally it clicked though! It was free when she used it. Another friend used eharmony, but got sooo frustrated with the steps you have to go through.
flc Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 EHarmony picks the the people for you based on your compatibility. Match allows you to choose on your own but gives you a score based on what you have entered. Match is also cheaper. POF varies greatly by region, in my area there is no one I would want to date on it. I used three sites Match, JDate (lots of Jewish women in S Fl) and FitnessSingles. Match worked out best for me, I had enough dates and met the women I am currently going out with through it.
sunshinegirl Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I've used both and much prefer match to eharmony. That being said, both can "work": one close friend of mine met her husband on Match, and another close friend met her now-fiance on eHarmony. For some reason eHarmony seems to send me very dull people or people who actually seem wildly inappropriate matches for me. I think of the three different times I've used eH, I have only met one guy in person. I find Match much easier in terms of searching for people and contacting them. I also don't like the idea of some algorithm, some computer program, deciding which people are good for me and filtering out everyone else.
alphamale Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Hmm I'd never heard of plentyoffish.com. Looks legit. Lots of people on there, and it looks to be free. its also mostly for non-professional people in their 40s, 50s and 60s...
allieapplesauce Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 i met my current guy on EH. It's been 4 months. not sure where its going. not sure if its going down hill......so wish me luck please. i never tried the others. i did it b/c i just couldnt find anyone and i found out the hard way the work dating was a big disaster. i dont really go anywhere else to meet anyone... do you admit it to your family you've gone on these sites? I kinda of feel embarrassed like it makes me look desperate....
Brimstone_Angel Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 i met my current guy on EH. It's been 4 months. not sure where its going. not sure if its going down hill......so wish me luck please. i never tried the others. i did it b/c i just couldnt find anyone and i found out the hard way the work dating was a big disaster. i dont really go anywhere else to meet anyone... do you admit it to your family you've gone on these sites? I kinda of feel embarrassed like it makes me look desperate.... Luck and blessings to you and your new beau. I an on serveral and have tried several. I have only met one woman from any of them and she decided after two years of long distant contact that she would prefer to focus on her newly formed business ventures. I miss being called the Husband of her heart and I calling her the Wife of my heart. Online dating has been a bust for me. Offline dating has been a bust for me. I might have to skip to mail order brides. Maybe just going the direct route may turn out better for me.
Chinook Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 its also mostly for non-professional people in their 40s, 50s and 60s...add to that its mostly people looking for no strings fun (IME anyhow). It's great if you're looking for fun... otherwise, I think it sucks... Personally, in the UK, I'd recommend Guardian Soulmates.
RecordProducer Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 Match dot com, big time! Eharmony totally sucks. They don't even let you browse thorugh members' profiles; they fix you up with matches (after you pay!) in accordance with your personality traits - and they get the idea about members' personality traits based on how they answer the questions about themselves (ie. lies prevail). Eharmony's concept is that looks, ethnicity or occupation don't matter - only your character matters. And some of the questions are like 'are you a night owl?' and 'are you usually on time?' Yeah, like that's more important than chemistry.
misternoname Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I used match for a couple of months. Fortunately I met a wonderful woman that has turned into an exclusive relationship (I guess that's what most of us are ultimately looking for) so I have since cancelled my subscription. I agree with previous posters. Online dating helps cut thru some of the crap. At least you go on a date knowing there shouldn't be any "deal buster" incompatabilities. Be prepared for some less than honest people. One girl described herself as "athletic and toned." Sure...if her sport was sumo wrestling! Otherwise I had a very good experience. My girlfriend was only on it for a day when we winked at each other. I was the one and only date she went on from match. Guess I grabbed her good and early LOL! Ironically she lives only a few miles from me. We frequented some of the same places but never met prior. If not for match i would have never found her.
BoerumHill Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I've had great luck with eH, one LTR and made many friends. Overall I like Match best, though. PoF must vary by region? Lots of 20s/30s folks in NYC use it. Does seem more casual, but I know at least one committed couple that met on there.
BleuStar Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 I've been on eHarmony for about a month now and have talked to many different men, but I'm still too chicken to meet any of them! I guess I'd better get over that, but the right one will surely wait til I'm ready. I like the communication process there. Even though it seems to drag things on sometimes, it's still good for people like me that like to take those things slow.
Shygirl15 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 eHarmony was not for me, I guess. I neither liked the endless questionnaires nor my matches. Match is so-so, but maybe better than the damn eHarmony. Has anybody tried Yahoo Personals?
alphamale Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 eHarmony was not for me, I guess. I neither liked the endless questionnaires nor my matches. and from what i've heard eScam-Your-Money does not even guarantee any matches. So you can potentially shell out your $50 and get no matches and no refund oh wait, maybe they'll extend your membership for a few weeks at no charge
Shygirl15 Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 eScam-Your-Money/e-I'm-Horny is the biggest scam I have ever come across. Shed $59.99 for a month and didn't even score a single date.
Lonestar Posted November 18, 2008 Posted November 18, 2008 and from what i've heard eScam-Your-Money does not even guarantee any matches. So you can potentially shell out your $50 and get no matches and no refund oh wait, maybe they'll extend your membership for a few weeks at no charge Woah! How long have you been back?
Isolde Posted November 19, 2008 Posted November 19, 2008 its also mostly for non-professional people in their 40s, 50s and 60s... This is true. POF is the worst dating site I've ever looked at, I canceled my account immediately. It's filled with guys who are incapable of writing even a generic craiglist type profile.
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