Stephen09 Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Alright... Here's the thing.. As all long term relationships are... You see yourself with Only that person.. But what happens when it ends? We were going to get married... Have kids... Go to college together... Where did all of that go? It vanished before my eyes. Getting back together isn't an option... Sadly... I don't know how to cope and get over her. I don't WANT to get over her... We dated for a year and a half and i never thought this day would come. There's not a minute that goes by that i dont have that sick gut feeling of what could have been... I still feel like everything could be okay if we just gave it another try but i know it won't turn out that way. We fought way too much over any and everything. We just weren't happy. But she's so special to me i would have married her unhappy just because of the way i see her in my eyes. Beautiful, intelligent, warm-hearted, funny, goofy, athletic, deep... The whole nine yards... I just feel i'll never find anyone as perfect as she was... PLEASE HELP ME. If you have ANY advice or can RELATE to my situation in ANY WAY, PLEASE post or contact me in some way... Thanks alot
Geishawhelk Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 There is nothing anyone can say or offer that will ease your pain. Time is not a great healer. All Time does, is pass. YOU heal. But as you've said, you don't want to get over it. So, by not letting yourself move on, you keep, perpetuate and feed the pain, by staying stuck in the emotions. So the only one who can heal, is you. And the only one who can start the healing, is you. Harsh as it seems, this really is your choice. Simply let go. Simple. Really. It is. But don't confuse 'simple' with 'easy'.
Ruby Slippers Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 How old are you? You sound young. Was this your first love? Most people feel this way about their first love -- "I'll never meet anyone like him/her", "I'll never love someone this much again", etc. But you will. I felt the same when I left my first serious boyfriend, and you know what? I have been choosing more and more compatible partners with each subsequent relationship. I spoke to my first love a while back on the phone, and I realized I am SO glad we're not together now.
sloppyclam Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 You are better off just trying to concentrate on your interests or hobbies. Try not to contact her and just be patient because time heals all wounds. If it's meant to be it will be. Sometimes things happen for a reason. Think of it like this if you guys are arguing like cats and dogs now it will get worse if you marry the girl. Because marriage is no picnic when you add bills, kids and other responsibilities.Good luck to you. Stay positive and things will go your way trust me.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Aw, see, if you'd dated your first love for six years like I did mine, you'd no longer feel like they're the only one! You'd be sick to freaking death of her and wanting to poke out your eyeballs because of the issues and OMG were you really thinking of spending your life like THIS??? lol. I still miss my first love, but he's deceased, so I'm supposed to. ps: I didn't kill him.
TigerCub Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 You say that you wont find anyone as perfect as she was, but you also say that you guys fought all the time and you were unhappy. So although she had a lot of qualities you liked - which made her perfect in your eyes, she was obviously not perfect for you. I know things seem bleek right now, but in time you will start to heal, and you will start to see that she's not the only person out there that embodies the qualities you liked about her. Sorry there isn't a quick fix solution to your pain, but in time you will start to heal and when you do meet the person that is perfect for you you'll understand/appreciate why things worked out the way they did now. Best of luck
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