Katherineos123 Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 OK. For those of you who dont know my story. Me and my ex broke up this past July, for pretty legitimate reasons, but I was still devastated. So its been about 4 months, and when we initially broke up he wrote me this email saying "It might be worth another shot, but X Y and Z need to happen" blah blah blah. So naturally, this sort of gave me a glimmer of hope that he still has feelings for me, and that perhaps in the future, we could try again. There wasnt any big betrayal between us or anything, and the break up was pretty run of the mill. In the meantime, I have been doing a lot of great things, meeting new people, and taking care of myself. Annnnyyway. I recently moved to another city, about 20 minutes away from him, and as of recently, we've been talking, a lot. He even heard that I went out on a date with this guy and asked me about it... which was unbearably awkward, but he seemed kinda huffed about it, although he said "Dont worry, its allowed." Im not exactly sure if this was jealousy, or if he really is trying to be just friends with me. His birthday is tomorrow and I made an awesome mix CD for him, with a bunch of "Im sorry" songs, and love songs on it (its not as cheesy as it sounds), and I think he would really like it, but I dont know if I should give it to him or not.... I need some advice on what my next move should be. I really miss him, and I would love nothing more than to have him back. Do you think him talking to me so much is him trying to be "just friends" with me? or is there an ulterior motive? Should I ask him out again? Do I have a shot at this, or should I just cut my loses?
Geishawhelk Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Has "x y and z" happened? It sounds as if you were doing well moving on... TBH. I really think giving him the CD would be a mistake. It's a retrograde step, and would just complicste matters. Nice as it may be (cheesy or not!) I'd give him a personalised coffee mug, or a bottle-opener key-ring, or fluffy dice for the car. Anything, but the CD.
Author Katherineos123 Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 Thanks for responding Geisha. Yes, X Y and Z are indeed happening. You see, because of many loses Ive had in my life... one relationship in the past which I was very burnt by, as well as the loss of both of my parents, has lead me to have some pretty debilitating abandonment issues, which got in the way of mine and his relationship... he told me that he thinks I should see a counselor to tackle some of these demons, I agreed with him, and have been talking to someone ever since. Which by the way, I reccomend to everyone! ;0) So, X Y and Z are happening, albeit these issues have no "overnight" cure by any means. And I have felt as though some of the skeletons in my closet are coming out, and I do feel as though Im begining to truly heal... which of course is my main objective. I just wish I knew his intentions. Has anyone ever broken up and so quickly reestablished communication "as friends" without any romantic motivations? I just feel as though he misses me, and I think he would be willing to try it again with me. I just dont know how to go about making that happen....
You'reasian Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 If you want to be with the man again, go for it. Let him know. The worst that can happen is that he'll say no.
Author Katherineos123 Posted October 12, 2008 Author Posted October 12, 2008 he'll say no. Herein lies the problem...
Author Katherineos123 Posted October 12, 2008 Author Posted October 12, 2008 Has anyone successfully gotten back together with their ex's after being "friended" by them? Can you ever really be just friends with someone only 4 months after the breakup?
You'reasian Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 Has anyone successfully gotten back together with their ex's after being "friended" by them? Can you ever really be just friends with someone only 4 months after the breakup? Good questions. I've never done it, but if he's worth it take the risk and find out.
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