prettybaby Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Jimbo, she simply sounds undecided, which isn't necessarily a bad thing. You say you're both in your 30s. How long has she been single? It seems like she simply hasn't figured out which direction she wants to go from here. Which is why she hasn't been clear about her intentions with you, and which is why you shouldn't try to push her into giving you a clear answer just yet. Because if she told you she only wants to be friends, then that closes the door to a potential romance. If she told you she's interested but wants to take it slow, she probably realizes that most guys would run to another girl instead of wasting their time and that's probably not a risk she's willing to take if she's still considering you as a potential boyfriend. Hence the mixed signals. I think she's just hesitating. And if she's been single for a while, then it makes sense for her to be careful. PS: a movie sounds great. That's definitely a date in the romantic sense.
Author jimbo Posted October 19, 2008 Author Posted October 19, 2008 Very true, and this is why I tried not to place any expectations on her. She did say she was in a multi-year relationship before (not sure how long ago), so I thought it would be best of me not to push her either way and let things fall into place. And, if she said, hey, I just wanted to be friends, that's cool too. The lack of response is what is bothering me. Its like she goes to extremes. One time we have many things in common, the other no response to my contacts. Granted, I am no rico suave, but I usually tell when things are not working out. Speaking or txting every day, then stopping all of the sudden is weird. Even if she does contact me now or next week, I am not sure I want a relationship with her. If something like this is making her undecided, what would be if something serious comes about... Can you see why I am puzzled?
prettybaby Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 Of course, I see your point of view. And I'm not saying her reaction is the most appropriate one. Communication is key. I think if you're pretty open with her, she might open up to you a bit more on the long run.
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