PandorasBox Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Both are 28, married at 20. Have three kids. No they did not get married because she was pregnant that came after they were married for about a year. She gets whatever she wants, by making others (husband included, feel guilty) They do not have the money for certain expensive things, but will go in debt just to have it. Husband wont put his foot down about it, therefore she keeps getting whatever she wants. They ask a family member for money for a light bill or phone bill because she took that money to get a massage or her nails done. He frequents the strip clubs with friends or sometimes by himself. Both talk about other people behind their backs. Nice to your face, not behind your back. Changes friends out like used worn out underwear. She claims her husband is the best man in the world, I would imagine because she gets whatever she wants. I don't think she knows he hits the strip joints. He claims she is wonderful/caring person, but yet told a friend on the phone he was tired of her getting her way with things, but yet he wont tell her how he feels or put his foot down. He even said she was a very manipulative person. I'm sure there are other things I can't think of right now. So what kind of marriage do you think that is?
curiousnycgirl Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Sounds like my parents 20 years ago - watch out these people are heading down a very bad path! Stay away, keep your distance, RUN!
imagine Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Immature. Life is either gonna make 'em or break 'em.
Trialbyfire Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 This marriage is headed for disaster. I feel for the three kids.
blair08 Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 "What kind of marriage is this?" Not much of one. They both sound immature, and selfish. It seems its based on lies and deceit and manipulation, mixed in with lots of co-dependency. That doesn't sound much like love to me nor healthy.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 "What kind of marriage is this?" If it's yours, it's pure awful. If it's not, it's none of your business.
Author PandorasBox Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 "What kind of marriage is this?" If it's yours, it's pure awful. If it's not, it's none of your business. Its not mine. Make sure too, while you're telling me its none of my business, you do the same for every post on this board that has a question about something reguarding something other than what might be going on in their own lives. Amazing how its none of my business but you made it your business to tell me its not. Why not just skip the thread.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Why not just skip the thread. I was curious because of the title, then felt compelled to respond. What is your concern with this? Is it just to pass judgment on someone else's relationship? Point fingers at people and yell, "Fraud!" when they both pretend to be content with their lives? I'm not picking at you, really. You asked a question and I responded. If you want a different answer, I'd call it a False Marriage and say that both parties are deluding themselves and attempting to delude everyone else, too. A couple of shallow folks who only care about appearances. How's that for judgmental?
Siciliana Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 If I were to observe a couple act that way, I would feel so bad for the kids... because they are gong to grow up and be as miserable as their parents.
quankanne Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 "married singles" is the term they used on our marriage encounter weekend – each spouse pursues individual wants/needs without putting the marriage first (or at the expense of the marriage).
Curmudgeon Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Sounds like my parents 20 years ago - watch out these people are heading down a very bad path! Stay away, keep your distance, RUN! Sounds like me and the ex 20 years ago. Hmmmm! Ya think that may be part of why she's the ex?
Lizzie60 Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 She gets what she wants.. he's too weak to stand up to her.. she's manipulative.. he lets her manipulate him... I guess they deserve each other.. I can't feel sympathy for people who know they are being manipulated BUT won't do a damn thing about it..
Reggie Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 Sounds lonely. Big time personality disorder(s) going on. She sounds like my X. Wish she'd left me enough money to visit strip bars while we were together. I bailed but it took too long to grow a pair.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 They ask a family member for money for a light bill or phone bill because she took that money to get a massage or her nails done. He frequents the strip clubs with friends or sometimes by himself. Ya ever consider that the money gets spent in the strip clubs, instead of the nail salon?
JackJack Posted October 14, 2008 Posted October 14, 2008 Sounds pretty self serving. I also agree with Lizzie, I don't feel alot of sympathy for those who know whats happening but yet do nothing about it. I guess some people enjoy feeding off one another.
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