Is it just me or does every girl/everyone have a casual attitude towards dating?

[Mydish1]

So far the past few girls I've gone out with has had a non-chalant/casual attitude about dating. It's quite frustrating really.

 

The last girl I went out with, she followed up and suggested to catch a movie. She said she was free that day but didn't specify from when to when. As with me, I usually get out from work late around 8'ish. And I think she was thinking of meeting up after she got out from work which I'm guessing was probably 5-6.

 

With that being she said she wanted to watch a movie and was free, I suggested to meet up around 8. I noticed some hesitancy and she eventually canceled on me the next day with some lame excuse (or made new plans). I find it to be really dumb to be honest. I suppose it was inconvenient for her because she had no plans afterwork and would have to go home and come back out if we were to see the movie.

 

I suggested something again this weekend but she made an excuse how she'd be busy all day. Now it's just dumb because I might not be able to see her again just because I couldn't get out from work early.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

She sounds dumb.

 

Don't waste time on a person who isn't willing to work around obstacles. The person who is willing to do this is the person who is interested in getting to know you. People who will only hang with you when all the stars align just right are not worth your time.

[Vertex]

People who are interested in you make time for you.

[Ruby Slippers]

I think this girl is just not that interested in you. If she were, she'd make time somehow, by letting you know when she is available.

 

As for casual, I don't like that approach, either. Guys who just want to "hang out" and don't bother to make concrete plans are not attractive to me, and I quickly friend-zone them. The ones who take the time to find out what I like, make a plan, and invite me out in a specific way are the keepers.

[mswonderful]

Unfortunately she's not interested.

 

She also could be a princess that wants you to adjust your schedule for her's. You don't want that either.

 

Move on, it just doesn't sound worth it.

 

and ps...we're not all casual about dating. I know I'm not.

[Mydish1]

She also could be a princess that wants you to adjust your schedule for her's. You don't want that either.

 

Yeah I know..I'm in NY by the way, and I tend to notice most girls here have that kind of attitude..whether or not they're originally from NY. AHH I hate it here, it really has a way of corrupting people.

 

I also forgot to mention she can afford to because she's a stunning tall blond...

[pretty professional]

The women who aren't into you are the ones who are casual toward you.