Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Why do women seem to think that kissing another woman when in a relationship with a man is acceptable? I ask this, because all the girls I know, who have boyfriends and my ex's all kissed another woman, sometimes when we were not around and sometimes in front of us. Whilst it impressed my friends who tend to think with their penis rather than their brain, it didn't do much for me, I can't say lesbians turn me on, funny, I know, but they just don't make lesbians like they do in porno. My girlfriend told me that one of her "bisexual" (who isn't bisexual these days?) friends kissed her, but I know it takes two to tango and I threatened that next time she does it, I might just be inclined to try it on with her gorgeous 40+ mother. I don't think I'm overreacting, but I would like to get a man's perspective on whether he thinks it is acceptable for his girlfriend to go around getting off with women?
Rudeger Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Dude, I completely agree with you. Most of the guy friends I have think it is ridiculously hot when their girlfriends make out with other girls in front of them. They're also the type who would cream their pants if their girlfriend suggested a 3some with another girl. Myself on the other hand, I am completely disgusted by all this. Don't get me wrong, I love lesbians in porn, but if I saw my girlfriend kissing another girl I would be devastated. It would be as bad as if she had kissed another guy. I would just lose a lot of trust in her, and likely dump her. I just don't get why girls do it. Are they all secretly bi-sexual or something? Do they think they will please their boyfriends? Maybe some guys do get turned on by it.... not me though. Looks like we're in the minority.
Angel1111 Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I have never kissed another girl like that in my life and I've never had friends who have done this either. Where are you guys finding these stupid women who live in this moral-free zone??? Get rid of this girl and find someone who doesn't play these kinds of stupid, juvenile games. Good grief.
Ms. Red Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I have never kissed another girl like that in my life and I've never had friends who have done this either. Where are you guys finding these stupid women who live in this moral-free zone??? Get rid of this girl and find someone who doesn't play these kinds of stupid, juvenile games. Good grief. I agree with you Angel. WTF is up with that? Are we of higher morals or just showing our age? LoL
Ruby Slippers Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I think most of these women do it to draw attention to themselves, to look reactionary and wild (which is funny because it's passé by now). I think few of them are actually bisexual or lesbian, and most of them do it to emulate what they see in porn and think men want to see in real life.
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 I won't dump her at the moment, but if it happens again and I find out about it, she will be ditched in an instant, I care not if she doesn't reciporate the kiss or not, she shouldn't allow herself to enter that situtaion. I do have to ask myself why I can never manage to meet a normal, down to earth woman.
Geishawhelk Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I know people have their own sexual preferences, and that fine and dandy by me. But you couldn't get me to kiss another woman that way, in public if you promised me all the cash reserves in the world. (which, judging by the global state of the economy, amounts to about £3.29.)
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 Since this relationship has gone LDR, it's been nothing but problems. I get rid of one and another one appears. I'm just wondering how much time I have left before my patience and hope withers away.
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 I'm a very loyal person and I will fight for what is important to me, but we met last weekend after she came back to see friends and she was so cold with me because we have had several arguments beforehand. She apologised, and of course I expected it, and she said she will make up to me and I played it off like it didn't matter, because I am falling for her a lot and don't want to lose her, but it seems like there is a continual spanner in the works. I think the honeymoon is over after just two months, :/
Potatocakes Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I understand where you're coming from but don't blame the bisexuals. I'm bisexual and I would never kiss another woman(or man) if I were in a relationship. Also most girls I know who make out in public do it for attention and say they're not gay at all they're just having fun
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 I don't acknowledge asexuality or bisexuality, therefore I cannot hate on something that I do not believe to exist. What I am fed up with is the way my relationship is progressing, I'm just going to ask her, if she is happy in the relationship and see what her answer is. They say LDR do not cause the death of a relationship, but I do. Everything was fine until she went away.
Ronni_W Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 My girlfriend told me that one of her "bisexual"...friends kissed her ... I threatened that next time she does it, I might just be inclined to try it on with her gorgeous 40+ mother. Nah, that wouldn't work -- you'd have to threaten to french a same-aged, GUY friend of yours, if you REALLY wanted to give her a taste of her own medicine!!! I've never heard of this as a social phenomenon until now -- maybe these (extremely misguided) young women are thinking it's cool to do cos Madonna and Britney and whomever else are doing it? I don't know.
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 I have no intention of kissing another male, I have done it once and it sank my boat.
pretty professional Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 It's acceptable for her to kiss other girls while in a relationship with you as long as it is acceptable for you continue to watch porno while in a relationship.
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 It's acceptable for her to kiss other girls while in a relationship with you as long as it is acceptable for you continue to watch porno while in a relationship. If she would give me regular sex, then I wouldn't need to watch porn. Oh she is 120 miles away and I see her a few times a month. Go figure, I am a sexually charged male, not a door handle, for goodness shakes. Secondly, I hardly equate watching porn as being on the same level of kissing someone else. She cheated on me, effectively. Watchiung porn is not cheating on her. When I watch it, I fantasise about her, not about the woman in the porn film.
The Collector Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Put me in the 'it's ridiculously hot' camp. I have encouraged most of my gfs to lezz it up for my pleasure, to mixed results. But I guess it's not for everyone. I don't get how more women aren't bisexual. Women are pretty and nice to kiss. Most are just pretending for the attention, sure, but I'm cool with that.
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 It's not the fact she kissed another woman, it's the fact she is in a relationship with me, kissing to me is an essential part of intimacy, just like oral sex nothing turns me on more than kissing. If we had been casually dating when she kissed this other girl, I wouldn't have had a problem with it.
Kamille Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 While we were in our early twenties, my friends and I went through a girl-kissing-girl in public phase. We would maximize on two fronts: it increased our sense of belonging and got us attention from boys (and it did get us attention from boys, not necessarly boys who could be considered boyfriend material though). So, to be honest, I can see two reasons why your girlfriend would be participating on the girl on girl action: 1) It's part of fitting in with her group of friends 2) She's trying to get attention from boys. Now, the caveat is, maybe she thought you would be turned out by her antics, but it sounds like she already knew you didn't like the idea.
Tomcat33 Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I don't get how more women aren't bisexual. Women are pretty and nice to kiss. Most are just pretending for the attention, sure, but I'm cool with that. I don't get why you dont't suck cck?!??! Get real, will you?
Tomcat33 Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I have no intention of kissing another male, I have done it once and it sank my boat. Are you gay or bi-curious?
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 Kamille, I never really discussed it with her. If she thinks that every guy likes watching two women go at it, then she is clueless.
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 Are you gay or bi-curious? I won't lie, I have spent some of my teenage years being capitivated by homoerotica and homosexuality with regards to men, not women. However I am entirely hetrosexuality, I have no desire to kiss a man, or sleep with a man and I certainly wouldn't kiss another man or women when in a relationship with somebody. May I ask what this has to do with anything?
pretty professional Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 If she would give me regular sex, then I wouldn't need to watch porn. Oh she is 120 miles away and I see her a few times a month. Go figure, I am a sexually charged male, not a door handle, for goodness shakes. Secondly, I hardly equate watching porn as being on the same level of kissing someone else. She cheated on me, effectively. Watchiung porn is not cheating on her. When I watch it, I fantasise about her, not about the woman in the porn film. I do put it on the same level. You can satisfy sexual needs without porn, just do it without porn. You two are not compatible and need to break up, sorry.
Author Krajt Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 That's your opinion and I thank you for it, but it lacks a concept known as logic. You can masturbate without porn, you are right, I do that too, but sometimes I need to watch sex in order to get turned on. You might be right, or you might be wrong, there's only one way to find out.
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