datingdate Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I met a guy on line and saw each other for 3 or 4 times. First time we met at coffee, then we went out for hiking once. Last time we went to see a movie. Although we kissed and held hands and we had some good time together but I still feel not quite sure if he is the guy I want to be with serisouly. I am still observing him and would like give it more time for to find out what my heart feels about him. He asked to meet my family or my friends which I refused because I am not ready to introduce him yet. I told him i need more time and I am not against it and believe it's a natural thing to introduce him or for me to meet his family down the road when I feel ready. But he insisted and said I am hiding something like I am not divorced as I said, etc. He did ask me to meet his daughter after our first date but I said I would like to do that sometime later when I feel more comfortable. I have my picture on dating website where we met. I am divorced. I am educated professional. So is he. (I never doubted that he is not divorced) Now we broke up just for me not introducing him to my family or friends. He said I don't open up myself but I have my reason not to introduce him because I am not sure if he is the right guy. I need more time. He sent a couple of emails, trying to convince me of that but what I want him to do is to stop arging with me, prove he is the right guy for me and prove that he is worth my love. But he didnot do anything. He said this is creditability issue. Am I wrong or is he an idot?
TigerCub Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 You're not wrong. You've gone out with the guy on 3 dates! To me, 3 dates doesn't even imply exclusivity yet. I mean I understand if he wants to meet your friends and all, but he's just acting crazy by breaking up with you just because you would rather wait a little while longer to introduce him to your family. This guy is way too pushy. I'm guessing that maybe he's met some shady people online that lied about their past, lied about being single or what have you, and he's just getting way too paranoid that he's assuming you're like those that screwed him over. Don't feel bad about it, he's already giving you ultimatums and you've only gone out 3 times.
popey Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 If you like him, and he still wants to go out and calm the hell down; like Tiger said- meeting friends is reasonable. Not wanting to involve your family in a 3-date relationship is not unreasonable.
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