SoundTribe Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Hello everyone. I am 18 and I have a problem. I have absolutely no idea how to approach and talk to girls. Let me give you a little bit of background of my situation: I am 18, and I've gone to small private schools all of my life. I've never been skilled with women but I managed to get into a relationship with a girl who had been my friend for 2 years prior to us going out. She was extremely attractive and I know the only reason I managed to get her was because I was friends with her. We broke up about a month ago and I'm looking to get back on the market. Now here is the dilemma: I don't know how to talk to girls. The girl who ended up being my girlfriend was my only female friend. And this isn't because I'm a loser. I've always been extremely athletic and fit. I have loads and loads of guy friends who I hang out with all the time, but when it comes to girls I just can't click with them. I just feel awkward and I say and do all the wrong things. I need some advice I don't know what to do?
joshaz Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Join the club? There is plenty of advice on this forum on this subject. I'd suggest searching. I think the basic advice is to practice... And that doesn't have to mean practice hitting on them... Either way, I'm not buying this "I'm not a loser" claim. I mean... You are here... Muhahahaha
Green Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 The truth is when I was 18 I also sucked with girls. I mean I had an incredible skill at saying the worst thing or not acting when I should act or vice a versa. Look dude your 18 your probably naturaly going to get alot better at this by the time your 20 there may be some painful years ahead. All you have to do is actualy have the balls to be direct, the advice is so easy and obviouse and if you do what I say you'll be golden... first off cast a wide net don't get obsessed with specific girls you don't really know... flirt and talk to every cute girl you come across. second ask them out don't just flirt and talk and say good bye... end off with stuff like "hey you gotta come to the party tonight or this weekend.." or ask them about if they know of any parties... or ask them to coffee or pertend you need help studying... then when you get them alone ... which if your at a party is as easy as asking them into the next room... if your out at coffee or studying you've already got them alone... try to be touchy and no matter what at the end of you date thats not a date... go in and try to kiss them... the best way to do that is act like you have something you want to wisper to them so you get close and then just be like "I can't stop myself from kissing you anymore" and bam kiss them and then you'll confident they'll most likely enjoy it... women rarely protest in person... if you end up getting rejected you later have to figure it out when they stop answering ur txts and calls
SushiX Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Try this man. Go to where the girls are at. Talk to 10 of them. I'm sure you'll get at least 1 phone number. It doesn't matter how ugly you are. You'll get the number. Practice doing this without fear of rejection and with 100% confidence. For the girls that rejected you, just act cool and don't lose your confidence, she might even like you after that! Goodluck!
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