Groovy Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 OK, had a bit too drink and I have had quite the week! It is Friday and I was let off work early. So I went home early. I have worked 60-65 plus hours, which is unusual for me and I am not used to.... But I was woke up at 5 PM, an hour ago by my boyfriend and his 15 year old son who BROKE into the house through the dog door, only 45 mins after I fell asleep. I wasn't answering my phone (and I would've gotten out of work 1 hr ago normally) and his son was in the car as he broke in. I kissed him half asleep, though he said call him in a few hours. I lay there, half awake and a bit freaked out. Is it me or is he being way too overprotective? I understand we are sharing a life together as he's moving in next week but do you have to break into my house because I don't the answer the phone within an hour? I feel especially annyoed he brought his son into this! To break in because I don't respond right away! My god! All I wanted was a few drinks and a nap after a 60 plus hr week! Is it me or him? Uggghhhh!!!
whichwayisup Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 IF he wasn't moving in, I would say yes, you have every right to be bothered by this.. BUT, he IS moving in within a week, so I guess he really needed to come in the house. Why doesn't he have a key yet? Even though the move is a week away?
Author Groovy Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 I am 36 and haven't lived with anyone before. I sleep through EVERYTHING and that's just how I am. My house could burn and I wouldn't know it. I guess the whole episode left me feeling violated in ways it shouldn't have. He said my car was in the driveway, the engine was cold, I wasn't answering the phone or doorbell and he worried something happened to me so he broke in. I guess I need to get used to the lack of privacy and someone truely dropping in at any minute, convenient or not. I know he means well but thinks he over reacted. Oh well, I gues I can't be too mad at him. He meant well. Maybe I am more upset that I went home and had a few drinks and ran out of steam as he walked into a pathetic mess....
LakesideDream Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 I am 36 and haven't lived with anyone before. I sleep through EVERYTHING and that's just how I am. My house could burn and I wouldn't know it. These two sentences tell the tale. You have been living privately your whole adult life. That means you have been in complete control. That's gonna end very soon when your BF "moves in". The joking statement that "your house could burn around you without you knowing it" is just as stark. Frankly that's not how most people live. Your BF "broke in" out of concern. Which is better, having a concerned BF who loves you, or one who doesen't give a damn? I hate to say it but it's only necessary to turn out the television and watch all the crime... to be afraid for others. It's a natural thing for people to care of others.
Author Groovy Posted October 11, 2008 Author Posted October 11, 2008 I know, I feel very silly. I think I was mad about losing a private moment and being caught off guard sleeping full of wine with a retainer in my mouth drooling on the pillow and waking up with him standing over me out of nowhere. But I must say he means well and get over it. We both have witnessed a lot of violence so I know what goes through his head.....
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