DannyGL Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 Girl left me out of nowhere and acted like she was pist and really mad, but there was no real reason... well she went running back to ex boyfriend. During the whole process I was understanding, I was never rude to her and even tho it hurt I told her that I wasnt gonna stop her from being happy. It's been almost a month since she left and the only time that She ever called was when she wanted to pick up her belongings from my apt. I was kinda depressed over the way which it all went down. Anyways, now out of no where she starts sending me messages on myspace - I dont reply. Then she started calling me, and the only one time I picked up the phone, I only answered it because I was busy. Now she is also emailing me too. I dont really know how I should go about this? I just emailed her back saying "wzup"? and that's it. She is still with the other dude. I kinda wanna talk to her to ask her what the hell she wants... then on the other hand I also wanna speak with her to tell her how she ****ed up. And with that being said, I got either be nice about it or be rude and try to make her feel bad... I havent made up my mind up yet. I do love her still, but I also love myself too and I dont put up with dishonesty which was one of the things I pointed out to her. She was talking to her ex and I just let her know that I knew, that she didnt have to lie about it. That's when I i dont get in her way of being happy, etc, etc.... Anyways.. I do wanna speak to her, now that she has been blowing up my phone, emails and myspace inbox... A friend told me to have No Contact and she will come back. Now that she is around I dont know what step to take next?
Geishawhelk Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I do love her still, but I also love myself too and I dont put up with dishonesty which was one of the things I pointed out to her. She was talking to her ex and I just let her know that I knew, that she didnt have to lie about it. That's when I i dont get in her way of being happy, etc, etc.... .....what step to take next? Woah, she's a regular little hot-n-cold fan, huh? I'm sorry, I really think you need to talk to her, but if she's just going to come out with "Oh, I just wondered how you are, I miss you, I'm sorry...." You need to just be really curt with her and say - "Yeh, right. Is that it? Can I get on with re-building my life now...? We're done, aren't we?" If she tells you she's confused, aske her to only call you when she isn't. If she says she wants to come back, make it conditional. Be decisive, and be in charge. It's your life she's messing with. because she doesn't know how not to mess hers up. So she's dragging you into her mess.... No no no no and no. Your Life is not her stuff to mess with any more.
Author DannyGL Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 Thank You Much. Do you think it's okay to say things like "you hurt me and I dont want to waste my time"?
RainbowBlue Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 If she wants you back do you think it could work? If not, do not contact her. If you want to just vent your feelings at how she ***ed up, do not contact her. if she is still with the other guy, then maybe she just wants to be friends. Do you want that? If you think you could get past the hurt and that she is worth it, make contact and see what happens. If its not going to work I think breaking all contact is the way to go. Can you 'block' her as junk mail? I think that since she is with the other guy its best to leave it, but only you can make that decision.
Author DannyGL Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 Hmm... I've thought about that as well. But here is the problem with that option. I'm gonna have to deal with her for then rest of my life no matter what happens. You see, My cousin, one of my best friends is married to her uncle. That's how we met. So i'm gonna be running into her at family get togethers... Infact my cousin called me today out of the blue. Yea she said hi and all that stuff... but she asked me hella questions about this girl
BackonTrack Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 This happen to me. Almost the same exact conditions. Girl Cheats on Guy. Guy Breaks up with GIRL. Girl acts all pissy and defensive. Girl realizes she is losing guy. Girl tries desperately to contact guy. Dunno what will happen but in my case I started talking to Girl again. Girl realized I was still there, she felt at ease. Girl tried to work things out, I refused. Girl said **** it, decided to not work things out I started going crazy Girl tells me to **** off and never contact her again. Have not heard from girl in 7 months. Dunno what your next move will be but thats what happen to me. Seems like you have the power here, not sure what your going to do with it. I agree with RainbowBlue and his advice.
Hersheys Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 Thank You Much. Do you think it's okay to say things like "you hurt me and I dont want to waste my time"? It would be better if you just say "I don't want to waste my time." Letting her know that she hurt you wouldn't matter anymore to her.
badbrit Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 Isn't this the girl that said something like, "dude i am not gonna pretend, i dont even care" when you said you were upset or am i getting my stories mixed up??? If this is the right story, ignore her, she is a nasty piece of work
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