nowhereman82 Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 So my ex txted me today and asked to meet, I responded that I was not interested. How shocking. Just several weeks ago I tried to force a meeting between us so we could see what the experience would do for us. She had turned me down without really turning me down (if that makes sense). So I moved on mentally because I had 'tried'. And now I am just not interested. I guess people want what they can't have...until they can have it...then they don't want it. I had read other people post about their similar situations and I was always shocked they could just say no after they had said so much about wanting to be with their ex. Guess I understand now I haven't really been spending much time on here lately, so not sure how active I will be but thought I would give an update since you had all helped me out so much over the months Next heart break I will def be back here lol
RainbowBlue Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I'm glad you are ok now. Wish I was. Someone has to be
CaliGuy Posted October 11, 2008 Posted October 11, 2008 Excellent. THAT is what NC will do for you. If any of my exs were to ask for a meeting, it would be a firm no. In fact, the 22 y/o ex here at work continues to do drive-bys by my desk and then complain to her co-workers that I am being unprofessional by ignoring her. I only ignore her when it's not work related. The other day she dropped some documents off at my desk. I said Hello and thank you. That's all I needed to say. Yet still, she went and whined to her co-workers that I am rude. LOL! I am NOT rude, I have simply implemented the NC boundary and it's driving her nuts. Stick to NC. It will do you a lot of good
tommiw Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 What a coincidence. My ex asked me to meet her just few days ago. I had no need to see her, so I refused. Right now I'm awake because my ex just called at the middle of the night and that woke me up. I answered because I thought that she might be in some trouble. Well, it would have been better that way: she just called because some random-ass dude, who she just found at the bar, made a magical disappearance. I said straight to her: I DON'T CARE, LET ME SLEEP. I haven't felt this good in months. I can imagine how you feel right now, like all the power is at your side now.
ChocoFine Posted October 12, 2008 Posted October 12, 2008 I haven't felt this good in months. I can imagine how you feel right now, like all the power is at your side now. I can't wait to have that feeling ... When she broke up with me 10 months ago, for her not understanding an advice I shared with her, I spent post-breakup time as normal as I can.. did respect her want to not contact her anymore, except the casual work-related "hi" when I saw her. She replies back but never initiated a "Hi" herself. I had been hurt madly for her treating me like that for a fault she commenced.. not only that, but also for claiming I'm the wrong and not her.. After 8 months of breakup I saw her again and said hello.. see seemed she missed me and said "how are ya?" but at the same time appeared cold faced. I perceieved that she really missed me but only was hesitant to re-initiate a contact to me so I acted on that: I a "short joke" email, and what a stupid action I've made.. I thought she'd forget the past and start all over again with me because of her "how are ya?" and my joke.. and what an "instant reply" I got on that email "ordering me" to "STOP" sending such emails (joke was a straight one, not rude or disrespectful at all). Suddenly my 8-month sad feelings turned into anger that I decided for sure that I want to confront her for all the past then proceed with my life (with aim: I did want my words to be the last).. so I made a letter that I discovered later was long enough for her to "understand" what she should understand. I gave her the truth that she did not respect me enough and she had to not hurt me again. The letter was respectful yet revealed a strong tone of an innocent man who did not fear to say the truth.. who shared with her love but she did not respect. I wondered after that if she ever read that email, whether she saw it or headed to her "junk mail" folder and deleted by accident etc.. Any ways, I said to myself "I'm tired of giving her chances, and it's over".. And since then I have been experiencing a good deal of relief (even though I still don't know if she read my message).. it is all that when I wrote that confrontation letter that I feld a big relief.. Whether she read the message and decided to ignore me does not matter, but I wish to close the gap in feeling good by meeting her some day and practising my first "no hi" to her ever.. I want to punish her by not saying hello as I ever used to and not turn to her a face.. I do not want to give her further ego boosts by leaning into her soul any more.. I know she love me and most probably still and so much... let her taste the grief for what she has been treating me like all this time and even before..If she decides to come back she's not welcomed.. and if she decides go away.. I win I leared not to blindly trust girls, not be so nice to them, not be "all" and "instant" for them, and after I found this great forum, and read the different experiences (particularly CG's) I found myself starting being immuned against a virus called "blind or incompatible love".. yes, do not call that love.. I hate "Valentine's day" for this Thank Ya'll
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