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Haven't seen friend in over 5 years, really want to see her

kidneyguy

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kidneyguy Member

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It may or may not belong in this topic (depending on where she is now), but here it goes. 6 or 7 years ago, I took martial arts classes with a girl, and we became very close friends. After taking classes with each other for awhile, she wasn't in any of my classes, and I've yet to see her since. How can I find her? All I'd want to do is just meet up and chat (if she still lives in my area). If she's not in my area, I don't mind chatting with her through IM or something like it. Thanks for your help!

Lucky_One Established Member

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What happened when you tried to call her after classes were over? Was her phone disconnected, or did she stop taking your calls?

 

I would start by googling her in your city. You can also do an Intelius search for her. Search in trade organizations for whatever her occupation is. She could have gotten married and have a different last name now, though.

 

I guess some people have luck with Craiglist?

Ronni_W Established Member

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What kind of relationship, if any, did you guys have, back 6 or 7 years ago? Was it just that you two were aware of each other, as co-students of a martial arts class, or did you actually develop a friendship -- go for coffee, talk on the phone, have an actual romantic interlude, anything?

 

Cos maybe it is more about allowing yourself to stop thinking of her as "the one that got away"? Maybe she isn't really that, but has been built-up to seem like that, in your mind?

 

Bottom line, for me, is that something feels 'off'. Unless you are 100% sure that she will be happy to hear from you and will WANT to reconnect/IM with you, then...well, most likely that was it, for you and this girl, for this lifetime. It might be better for you to work from this perspective, and just leave a very small space to allow the Universe to "re-deliver" her to you, when It deems it will be appropriate.

 

EDIT: That is, stalking a relative stranger on-line can hardly be good for self-confidence and self-esteem. (And that's what it would be, if you two really didn't have a relationship to speak of, way back 6 or 7 years ago.)

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