Jersey Shortie Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 Maybe this is a Jersey issue.... much like Corzine toll hikes. Blame Corzine..he killed love.
Author beachgirlNJ Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 HI everyone! I am so happy to be here, was a lurker for awhile. I am just a little irritated with some men because I believe in love and I am tired of guys just looking at the physical and not really paying attention to what I am really saying. I want someone I can talk with and giggle with and get that connection with first before sex. What happened to those words making love??!!
Sks Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 hmm, both are important. Try wearing less revealing clothing.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 It seems we live in a superficial and disposable culture now. I agree with you totally, what happened to all the enjoyment of spending quality fun time with a partner/potential partner. Also, it seems nobody trusts anybody anymore. I have a really hard time finding potential partners that are not only intelligent, but down to earth. I find it so awesome when I see two old people still holding hands and have been together forever, that era seems to have vanished. Cheers!
Author beachgirlNJ Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 It seems we live in a superficial and disposable culture now. I agree with you totally, what happened to all the enjoyment of spending quality fun time with a partner/potential partner. Also, it seems nobody trusts anybody anymore. I have a really hard time finding potential partners that are not only intelligent, but down to earth. I find it so awesome when I see two old people still holding hands and have been together forever, that era seems to have vanished. Cheers! Thank you! I agree...I thought maybe I was one a few left that have morals and values!! Hugs...
Lucky555 Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I am wondering the same thing. Its all so superficial. People are getting married around me though, but to people they have known since childhood! I didn't like anyone while i was growing up eww and i still don't. SO now the question of love...i really don't think many people do. We hear about love in movies and songs..i have yet to see and experience true love! A lot of young women i know are single, due to advancing our careers. Its very odd. These young women including myself are attractive, REALLY smart, and funny. We have values...and here we all are cluster together in our career. There are not a lot of men that want to stand behind their girl for going to college...there are not a lot of men that have patience! I have found many men are looking to promote themselves. They are looking for women with money or are wealthy aka sugar mamas. THis is the ideal woman..sounds awful but its true. This is not all men but a lot of men i have encountered! Maybe i was hanging near loser ville or something! Many men at clubs are all looking to get laid or the one night stand. Bars are the same. College boys are looking for short term relationships primarily..its college life they all want that "experience" or what they see on tv with girls taking off their tops and taking shots off their stomachs. My friend went online and actually found a guy she liked....i looked online and i can't bring myself to do it. First of all I personally don't think its safe just too many weirdos. Through friends, family, and meeting people is the way to go i suppose. I think my friend was lucky to have found someone online..but when i met him i totally didn't see potential (but thats just my perspective). I also know my friend is SETTLING! Shes not in love or even crazy about him but he is "decent" so shes going with it. Maybe she will fall in love someday with him idk. I met my brothers friends and found out they were no good so there goes that one (family). They had the same morals as him. I myself am enjoying life and trying to do more things for myself lately instead of focusing on guys. I think about it now and then but all i can do is have faith that something will happen somewhere! lol Money is a big issue these days. Also the fact that sex is almost available everywhere. I have no clue where the successful, bright, wonderful guys are. The ones that have confidence in themselves and are not players. Far to many players out there. Another thing is a lot of guys don't want to commit..they will stall as long as possible till you start having to play the game of being aloof, going out with other guys, flirting in front of other guys, and basically almost leaving the relationship...for them to realize they should commit in order to keep you. (I THINK ITS DUMB..but its true.)
Trialbyfire Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I do strongly believe in love. I love my close friends and family. As for romantic love, I'll fall in love again, hopefully for the last time, one way or the other.
Angel1111 Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 At this point in time, no, I don't believe in love. Men are mostly cold and calculatting and they're really only motivated by sex, money, ego, and/or guilt. Even when they ACT like it's love, it's not. It's just a practiced method of getting what they want. Yes, I'm just a little pissed off right now. But you did ask....
Author beachgirlNJ Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 Lucky, Thanks for posting. I promised myself I would not settle. So many of my girlfriends are doing that. I think I would be miserable living a "lie" like they are. And they end their marriages all the time. Someday, I hope I will find my equal!...and hope you do too!
Lizzie60 Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I do believe in love. Love will always be the most important part of our life. It's food for our soul. The only thing I don't believe is 'love till death do us part'.. that's BS... At 25, for example,.. there is no way we can say we will be with this one person, and in love with this person all our life.. it's ridiculous.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I think I'm getting closer to letting go of my past disappointments and searching for someone again. I told myself over the last couple of years I would never trust another woman, but I don't think I ever really would stick to that sentiment. I've been pretty much alone for almost three years now, so it's time I find someone I can share myself with. I will approach with caution, but try to keep the wall from stacking too high. There are good women out there, I have spoken to many good women here on LS, so I am optimistic. I just hope at some point people come back down to earth, put their heart and sole into what really counts, and put the material things second. I will offer my manhood, my integrity, and my heart to a woman who deserves all the benefits of being loved and respected for being the woman she is. I must understand that there are no guarantees, but life really holds no other guarantee other than you are going to die, and when I leave this earth I want her in my arms. Cheers!
V.Vixen Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I believe in love, but I also believe that if you find that true love, you are a lucky person. It seems more and more rare these days. I, also, refuse to settle for fake love or relationships just to be with someone. I do, however, hold out hope that I will find it again. I am worth it, and am sure that when I least expect it the man that is the one who I am meant to fall in love with will come along. I should be cynical and jaded by now (and OH BOY, do I have my moments!), but I try to keep the romantic notion that love still exists. Is it a fairly tale? Perhaps it is, but I am keeping the faith alive.
V.Vixen Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I think I'm getting closer to letting go of my past disappointments and searching for someone again. I told myself over the last couple of years I would never trust another woman, but I don't think I ever really would stick to that sentiment. Cheers! Our past hurts allow us to appreciate our future loves. I have been there, was with my HS sweetheart for 8.5 years... married and divorced by 26. I can really appreciate the little things now that i couldn't before.. but it is/was hard to let that wall of trust back down long enough to let someone in.
cutegirl Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I don't believe in love and am pretty set on being alone for the rest of my life. I am not an idealist, I'm a realist. I am 30 now and have no probs being alone and single until I die. Do not want kids and do not want a man.
Rooster_DAR Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I don't believe in love and am pretty set on being alone for the rest of my life. I am not an idealist, I'm a realist. I am 30 now and have no probs being alone and single until I die. Do not want kids and do not want a man. I hear ya, I felt that was for the past few years. Give it a few more years, you might run into someone who changes your mind, you never know. I've been a pretty cold and selfish person for a while now, personally it's time for me to make a change for the better. At the same time, there is nothing wrong with being single, I think everyone should embrace being alone for a good amount of time, you really get time to know yourself better. Cya!
serialgf Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 Maybe this is a Jersey issue.... much like Corzine toll hikes. Blame Corzine..he killed love. hey now i'm from jersey and i believe in love!
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