gummybear Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I've been doing this online dating thing for nearly 2 months and not even ONE person worth interacting with let alone date (I thought the guy I went out with twice would of been decent but gosh I"ve never been so WRONG about someone...it even scared me how wrong I was bout him, esp since the first date wasn't that bad). Anyway, this online dating thing seems to be taking longer than normal for me right now in this new city. So how long does it normally take for you all? Which sites are the best?
Isolde Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Aww, gummy, dont worry so much. Being all tied up in knots is the worst thing. There are all these cute guys in my new city, too, and I'm agonizing over how to meet some of them... but I've got this feeling it prob wont be online or thru speed dating. I've given up for now and am trying to focus on making friends/networking instead.
Star Gazer Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Are you in a small town? I have no problem finding someone to at least meet, and even have a second date with.
Author gummybear Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 Are you in a small town? I have no problem finding someone to at least meet, and even have a second date with. I moved from NorCal and now I'm in LA. I think there's alot of guys in LA, but maybe not as many as in NorCal. The guy I went out with twice said 'alot of guys in LA are like me..wear flip flops year round, end and begin sentences with the word dude, talk like a**holes, etc' I don't know if its true, but I sure hope not! lol
Star Gazer Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I moved from NorCal and now I'm in LA. I think there's alot of guys in LA, but maybe not as many as in NorCal. The guy I went out with twice said 'alot of guys in LA are like me..wear flip flops year round, end and begin sentences with the word dude, talk like a**holes, etc' I don't know if its true, but I sure hope not! lol Ah. Well, we're in the reverse. I moved from LA to NorCal. In LA, I had difficulty finding a guy who wasn't obsessed with the superficial or just plain stupid. So I hear ya on that one.
Author gummybear Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 Ah. Well, we're in the reverse. I moved from LA to NorCal. In LA, I had difficulty finding a guy who wasn't obsessed with the superficial or just plain stupid. So I hear ya on that one. Oh gawd, I hear alot of people in LA have the same experience as you when it comes to dating. I thought maybe it's just a stereotype, but seriously I cringed the entire second date with the guy. He would swing his head to the side every once in awhile so that his hair would sweep up -- and every time he did that I literally shivered . You're lucky your in NorCal. I was there for 3 years and it has seriuosly some of the nicest, sweetest, and sincere guys...looking for real relationships and not just f*cking around. Gosh, I miss those NorCal boys...
Star Gazer Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Oh gawd, I hear alot of people in LA have the same experience as you when it comes to dating. I thought maybe it's just a stereotype, but seriously I cringed the entire second date with the guy. He would swing his head to the side every once in awhile so that his hair would sweep up -- and every time he did that I literally shivered . You're lucky your in NorCal. I was there for 3 years and it has seriuosly some of the nicest, sweetest, and sincere guys...looking for real relationships and not just f*cking around. Gosh, I miss those NorCal boys... The best guys I dated in LA were from NorCal or the Midwest, clearly did not spend more time doing their hair than I did, and were not in any way involved in the entertainment industry. Perhaps look for guys that have those qualities.
flc Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 Maybe see if you can find a transplant from the Midwest to LA? Living in any kind of beach/outdoors focused location does lead to a lot of people who are mainly concerned about how they look with their clothes off. You should see SoBe. Not that this is completely a bad thing. I have used Match, JDate, POF, FitnessSingles and Lava. So far the pay sites seem to have better quality in my area. Match has probably been the best although as far as amount of available women JDate probably had the most. From a man's perspective I was good for a couple of dates a month and I was with one women for a couple of months and now I have been with someone for about a month now. I am also older at 50 so that probably also makes a difference, people are a bit more mature about dating at my age and less about hooking up.
likestolaugh Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I've been on a dating site (POF) for a week, .... I msg'ed someone, got a response, chatted on the phone, and now we're gonna meet up this week. So for me, it's been pretty quick. I'm 23, she's 21... so we'll see how much that effects it.
EYECANDY000 Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 There isnt a time period. You should just be very cautious when m,eeting people. And try to ask lots of questions so you could get a feel for them before you meet them. Poeple alwasys say they have a good judge of character, but it can sometimes be decieving. As you have learned first hand. But to answer your question I have been of a dating site for almost a year now and have met 2 people. So, just be patient. you need that quality to date.. lol
Isolde Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 I've been on a dating site (POF) for a week, .... I msg'ed someone, got a response, chatted on the phone, and now we're gonna meet up this week. So for me, it's been pretty quick. I'm 23, she's 21... so we'll see how much that effects it. Are you serious? That age difference is NOTHING in my book. I'd only be concerned if you were 28 or older...
likestolaugh Posted October 20, 2008 Posted October 20, 2008 Are you serious? That age difference is NOTHING in my book. I'd only be concerned if you were 28 or older... oh, I didn't mean as far as interaction goes... I just meant as far as maturity and what was expected from a dating site.
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