preztonizer Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 HERES MY STORY IN CONFUSED CAN SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE?, I dated a guy 11 years ago we miscarried our baby that time he left me because I got tattoos, found him again last year, he was wearing no ring, I already knew him I missed him he came here and you know, he stayed, he left behind a house, and a wife of 10 years, he said that he was a jerk to her and did not know how to communicate thats why they went to hell. He promised when things got bad he would learn how to communicate with me. He went out and traded his truck for a vehicle for us to all use, and i told him to feel things out because I have 3 kids and i dont need to be hurt again, because he has no kids. He was so nice for awhile, then he started withdrawing, he got an expensive bed, eye surgery, and the expensive vehicle and then quit his job. We got behind, and he became withdrawn and then the sex went away, then the attention, he didnt care about my birthday, mothers day anything. I went online and found him his new job. The bills were calling all the time, and we owed alot of money on our vehicle. We had a baby, he started withdrawing from him, he started being mean to me and the kids. Started hiding his cellphone, extra messages were sent that were not from me, the passenger seat was reclined alot, kept his cellphone clear of every call and text even from me, leaving to work early, coming home late, no sex, no attention, puking all his food, sleeping to much and wanted nothing to do with any of us, everytime i tried to talk to him he would yell at me to leave him alone, he said he wished my kids were dead. I stood up for myself and said we needed to talk, he said no so i said talk or leave and he said ok bye. He can not stand to live with his parents, hes 35 and left one woman and left me, i should of known this was coming, now i have 4 kids, i can handle it. But from another persons point of view, does it souond like, cheating, or depression or what. I tried to retract my statement i thought he would be the man who claimed he loved me and get scared and talked. Then it was twisted all of a sudden he said he dont love me, and hes never coming back. He took the vehicle too, but it was his. I begged back for a few days and got nothing but cold comments from him, how can someone love you one day and not the next? As soon as i left him alone, everyday he dropped of the car for me to go to work he opened my door and had a big grin on his face and kept saying he needed to get some ofhis stuff, that was bothering me so i told him to stop, i had to still show i cared and i broguht him over a dozen roses, his cellphone and the key to the house over he could care less and gave it back to me. I dont know if i was used, or what, but for someone who hates living with mommy and daddy hes there instead of here, and it makes me feel like i did something wrong. Or is he a stubborn guy who runs and hides his pride?. Its been 2 weeks and he finally picked up the baby he said he never wanted to see for the day. How can someone leave and run away when we never fought one time and we have such a cute little boy? And why would he trade in his truck and abandon a house and make a baby and invest so much to lose and throw it all away? Its been a month and he never once cared to talk, just ran away, i lost my job, and now at home for now, because he took our one and only vehicle. Just is hard for me to firugre out, one day he loved me and the kids, we were supposesd to get married then he runs away. He calls for a stupid reason when he has the baby on Saturdays, just to ask me when he ate last or something, I dont know if thats his way of showing he cares or what. I dont know what went wrong, we never fought and we were happy he just went down. Its hard for me because usually people know why they breakup, but I dont and I need closure. The vehiclen was getting repoed but he saved it after he moved out and it sits there all day long cause he works at night and wont let me use it to work and take care of the baby and my other kids. It sucks being here with no car and no job. I always worked. Makes me so mad that he just walked out and no contact at all, like I never meant anyrthing, I think by being ignored like this means he just used me to get away from the marriage he was a jerk to and didnt communicate with either and to avoid living with his parents, then he decided to not communicate with me and leave me like he did his ex.
Karma101 Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I'm sorry you are going through this...but really... he said he wished my kids were dead. What a POS!!! Plain and simple. Do you have family or friends you could stay with until you are able to get back on your feet?
Author preztonizer Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 Im ok, as far as housing goes, i got help from the state, it sucks i never wanted to go that route, dont like the feeling of being on welfare, I always worked, I just have to save up a little to get a vehicle to get back to work. I think he doesnt like kids, the way he was treating after awhile, and his brother said he never wanted kids, and he is confused why he had one with me to begin with, but I think he was just depressed really bad, unless i am just giving excuses for him?
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