Author kashmir Posted October 23, 2008 Author Posted October 23, 2008 Agreed. Start out with something like, "wow, you look like you have really soft hands." If she offers one to you or you can gently reach for one, but make a move to feel her hands. If she lets you touch her hands (just lightly stroke them with your fingers to gauge her reaction), doesn't pull away, sits there with a silly smile on her face... you're golden. If she pulls away, well, then you know. You can then move to kissing a hand, sucking on fingers, kissing her, etc. Don't worry about rape, seeming like a creep or what ever else and just kiss the girl. Its so much easier to get forgiven for doing something then for not doing something. I've learned that kissing a girl and touching her are actualy the things that will make them like you so just go ahead and do it weather you think they like you or not. Once you kiss the girl and see a good reaction from her you probaly won't feel shy anymore It just seems so foreign to me. I was always taught to let the girl make the first move, because that way she's giving "permission"...that kissing or any kind of intimacy isn't something girls enjoy, so it's their's to give away to guys they deem fit. Obviously that hasn't gotten me anywhere, lol. I know that's total bs, but I'm working on getting that out of my head. As Tyler Durden said, "We're a generation of men raised by women." Hmmm... no problem asserting yourself here... Yeah, I'm pretty tough and assertive in almost every other way. Physical pain, mental pain, discipling myself to do well with my body and in school. I also have a bit of a wild daredevil side to me that comes out a lot. I don't put up with a lot and I take risks. But I was only exposed to girls for the first time recently, so I'm just them learning now.
Fraggle Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 It just seems so foreign to me. I was always taught to let the girl make the first move, because that way she's giving "permission"...that kissing or any kind of intimacy isn't something girls enjoy, so it's their's to give away to guys they deem fit. Obviously that hasn't gotten me anywhere, lol. I know that's total bs, but I'm working on getting that out of my head. As Tyler Durden said, "We're a generation of men raised by women." Yup, it's BS alright. In my experience 90% of women won't make the first move (unless they are drunk and/or middle aged cougar in heat; again, just my experience). And girls love kissing and all the rest. They just generally want the guy to initiate it.
Green Posted October 24, 2008 Posted October 24, 2008 For a period in my own life I was a guy who was also oblivious. I look back on all the oportunities I missed out on durring those oblivious times and its some what painful. Rule number one who cares if a girl likes you or not stop looking for the signs. The only reason I even care if a girl likes me or not is because if I notice a girl likes me it makes me like her some times. But for the most part only concern yourself with which girls you like which should be any attractive girl. From there be bold make moves... when ever you have a girl alone touch, and then go for the kiss. Yes you'll be scared but just go ahead and do it. Are you a virgin by the way?
Author kashmir Posted October 26, 2008 Author Posted October 26, 2008 For a period in my own life I was a guy who was also oblivious. I look back on all the oportunities I missed out on durring those oblivious times and its some what painful. Rule number one who cares if a girl likes you or not stop looking for the signs. The only reason I even care if a girl likes me or not is because if I notice a girl likes me it makes me like her some times. But for the most part only concern yourself with which girls you like which should be any attractive girl. From there be bold make moves... when ever you have a girl alone touch, and then go for the kiss. Yes you'll be scared but just go ahead and do it. Are you a virgin by the way? Not a virgin, but I've only kissed/had sex when drunk, and those times were not enjoyable when I look back at them. They don't happen that often either.
Green Posted October 26, 2008 Posted October 26, 2008 I was drunk the first time I had sex I don't think I would have had the balls. Good luck with the girls and the other things you want in life, the confidence to go for it and not be afraid of failure is the key
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