Confusedalways Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Background: I am 21, the guy in question is also 21. We live next door to each other in our college dorm room. We are both college seniors. He went to an all boys private religious high school. Recently I caught wind that this guy, Jim may have a 'thing' for me. So his roommate basically begged and pleaded with ME to make the move on Jim because he [the roommate] knew Jim would never make a move on me because he's too shy, bla bla bla. Well, I'm shy in that department too! The main problem stems in the fact that neither of us are shy PEOPLE, we're just shy with the people we have crushes on or whatever. His roommate told me that Jim is really nervous with girls and has little experience in that dept. After what what seemed like forever, Jim finally made a move on ME and we did a few things (no sex). We were tipsy- definitely not drunk. I thought it went pretty well. Well, since then, we talk as though nothing happened, are still fun, natural and flirty and all of that, but when I ask him to do things with me alone (sober) he is really ambiguous/nervous?/or maybe just doesn't want to. Ex: I asked him to come over to my room to watch a movie, he said ok!, and came right away. I sat down on one of the empty couches and he sat on a completely different couch across the room (this being like, 2 nights after we hooked up). I feel like i'm being painfully obvious that I like him, and i've *heard* he likes me too, so what's the problem?! One things that really confuses the hell out of me is about a month ago he was talking about how he'd never hook up with anyone unless he saw it going in a serious direction, then about 2 hours before we hooked up he was telling me how awkward it would be if Julie & Sam broke up (1 of his roommates and 1 of my roommate who also live next door to each other). I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into things, grasping at straws, or if he really is just nervous. Does anyone have any advice?! All of my female friends think the ball is in his court, but i'm afraid if I leave the ball in his court he will NEVER make another move, especially sober. I can understand need some booze to loosen up, but I really don't want to have to wait for thursdays, fridays and saturdays for him to be comfortable enough. I mean, does he like me and is just nervous? If so, what can I do to make him make more moves?! thanks guys!
Author Confusedalways Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 eeek. any ideas anyone?!
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