wayfaerer1 Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I'll be doing fine for a while - I'll be in a pretty good mood, like "this is no big deal, it's a part of life, and I still have my health and my future to look forward to." Then one night you go to bed, and you have a horrible nightmare in which your ex is involved - Like I had a dream that I met up with my ex and she was this completely different person, looked gorgeous and had a different personality, and you wake up and it almost feels real... I had such a terrible nightmare last night, I'm at work, but I'm still shaken up about it. You think you're making progress trying to heal and then **** like this happens...Ugh. I'm not in constant pain anymore, but it seems to come in waves...And when those waves hit they hit hard... Anyone else experience this too? I just wonder if this is like a new phase in coping or if this will never end.
northstar1 Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I'll be doing fine for a while - I'll be in a pretty good mood, like "this is no big deal, it's a part of life, and I still have my health and my future to look forward to." Then one night you go to bed, and you have a horrible nightmare in which your ex is involved - Like I had a dream that I met up with my ex and she was this completely different person, looked gorgeous and had a different personality, and you wake up and it almost feels real... I had such a terrible nightmare last night, I'm at work, but I'm still shaken up about it. You think you're making progress trying to heal and then **** like this happens...Ugh. I'm not in constant pain anymore, but it seems to come in waves...And when those waves hit they hit hard... Anyone else experience this too? I just wonder if this is like a new phase in coping or if this will never end. Yep, I've had that exact experience happen several times. And the dreams seem to happen in the early morning, like 5 or 6, so I always wake up and recall them vividly. Always the same sort of theme too. And yes, it does come in waves, you'll be alright, then suddenly a trigger happens (can be anything really, song, movie, restaurant, her name coming up) and it rushes over you. I guess it's just more time needed.
Bob54 Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 in which I dreamed I was at a party (although I didn't recognize any of the faces in the room, oddly enough) when I saw the girl I loved and lost across the room. Since we're not an item anymore, and she's now dating someone new, it was such a shock to see her in a dream. I only saw her from the back...never from the front...but recognized her hair and the dress she was wearing. Was tempted in this dream to just walk over to her and say hi...or say something...I just felt drawn to her and wanted to talk to her soooooo bad. But then, just as I was about to take a step towards her... The new guy she's dating appears by her side and slips his arm around her waist. She hugs him back. I see them looking so happy as they bid the other partgyoers goodnight and disappear into the night together. And in my dream, I'm like screaming inside, "Nooooooo! Don't go! Not with him!!!" But she couldn't see or hear me. Oblivious that I was even there. I woke up at 5am shaking and about to cry from the effect of this very vivid dream. Kept flashing back to it, could'n t really tell anyone about it. Then I saw this thread and had to post my experience. Ah, think I feel better now just getting it off my chest and knowing I'm not alone in having dreams like these. Thanks for letting me vent here.
EmperorR Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 Yup, or even today at work im all good and then this stupid co worker is like so when are you getting married again? i just felt like sh*t for the rest of the day, last time i ever tell anyone at my workplace im in a relationship
Author wayfaerer1 Posted October 10, 2008 Author Posted October 10, 2008 Hey Emp, join the club man. People I haven't seen since the break up, that's the first thing they ask, "So, how are you two?, how is she?" All that progress you make trying to forget, it just all comes back.
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