rod_in_gtown Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 So I went to speed dating tonight. I got a call from the organizers today asking me to go for free because they had a bunch of people cancel. So I jumped at the chance. I have to say, there were so many beautiful and wonderful women there tonight! I checked off 8 women who I would love to have the chance to date again. I've been sitting patienly at home waiting for the matches to come. Last time they rolled in at around 11:30 PM but it's now 12:45 and nothing
Jilly Bean Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Why don't you just speed yourself on over to the west coast and we can get this going already!? SO happy to hear it went well! I haven't always heard great things about it. Maybe it's delayed because everyone wanted you and jammed the system!
Lucky_One Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I have always thought it sounded like fun; I like people in general, and I love getting into one-on-one situations where you can really talk. So I think I would enjoy the challenge of "how much can you find out and how stongly can you feel any chemistry in 8 minutes". Some people are quieter and shyer, and in a large mixed group, they can get pushed to the side by the more outgoing folks; thsi way, you are each "forced" to find those potential partners who mingle on the outskirts. I hope that you get your matches, soon; if none show up, do it again. You seem to be a upbeat guy, and there is someone for everyone out there!
Author rod_in_gtown Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 I really like it. It's a great way to meet people and I did get some matches although not all 8. Now I have to go on a bunch of second dates. are those considered 2nd dates if you only met for a few minutes? I'm really looking forward to the slower pace of an actual 1 on 1 date.
Lucky_One Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I'd call it a first date myself. (Unless we ended up getting married, and then I would call our speed date our "first date"!) Glad you heard something from them. There are just so many neat ways to meet strangers out there now - I am not a big fan of most bars, so I like all the new ideas.
Bells Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 So I went to speed dating tonight. I got a call from the organizers today asking me to go for free because they had a bunch of people cancel. So I jumped at the chance. I have to say, there were so many beautiful and wonderful women there tonight! I checked off 8 women who I would love to have the chance to date again. I've been sitting patienly at home waiting for the matches to come. Last time they rolled in at around 11:30 PM but it's now 12:45 and nothing Just curious....I wonder who cancelled (what gender) and what was the male to female ratio at this event?
Bells Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I really like it. It's a great way to meet people and I did get some matches although not all 8. Now I have to go on a bunch of second dates. are those considered 2nd dates if you only met for a few minutes? I'm really looking forward to the slower pace of an actual 1 on 1 date. You should try Meetup.com ....that's a great way to meet singles as well.
flc Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Interesting, keep us posted on it works out. I also saw another service called Just Lunch which does matching and lunch arrangements. Not sure if anyone has tried it, they seem to be franchises so consistency of service might be an issue also not sure of the cost. http://www.itsjustlunch.com/ [COLOR=#1F497D][/COLOR]
Author rod_in_gtown Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 Just curious....I wonder who cancelled (what gender) and what was the male to female ratio at this event? A few guys cancelled. There were 11 girls and 9 guys.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 Interesting, keep us posted on it works out. I also saw another service called Just Lunch which does matching and lunch arrangements. Not sure if anyone has tried it, they seem to be franchises so consistency of service might be an issue also not sure of the cost. http://www.itsjustlunch.com/ I'm usually too rushed over lunch to think about meeting someone for the first time. Plus I'm weary of these "managed" dating services.
Bells Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 A few guys cancelled. There were 11 girls and 9 guys. What I have noticed...at least in MY area, is the am ount of women that sign up , vs the men. Apparently the women slots fill up quite quickly, and sometimes there is a shortage of men. I wonder why this is?
D-Jam Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I've been sitting patienly at home waiting for the matches to come. Last time they rolled in at around 11:30 PM but it's now 12:45 and nothing Question...is this something on a web site or somewhere that tells you the matches have not been tabulated and posted yet? Or you get contacted when you get a match and if not you just see what you see now? I'm drawing this based on the number of men and women who have told me they either organized or went to speed dating and scenarios came up where the women in the event picked barely anyone, with most women picking no one to even get to know better. Also had guys speak of women they were talking to at the event who come clean and tell them they're married or in a RL and they're just there to support their single friend. If you had success, then good for you...but I'm always skeptical if this scenario is you waiting for results or no results made. What I have noticed...at least in MY area, is the am ount of women that sign up , vs the men. Apparently the women slots fill up quite quickly, and sometimes there is a shortage of men. I wonder why this is? First off, your props to meetup is right on the money. I never went on that site looking for dates, but I have had a lot of fun going to events of like-minded people when it comes to interests I have like drum circles and photography. I think most women fear confrontation and drama. They like to just meet the guy head on and not deal with the drama of online dating sites. They want it quick and easy and in person so they can more easily see what the guy actually looks like and if there's any initial chemistry. Plus girls like to do things in packs...hence all the tales of women coming out in packs of friends to do this.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 Question...is this something on a web site or somewhere that tells you the matches have not been tabulated and posted yet? Or you get contacted when you get a match and if not you just see what you see now? I'm drawing this based on the number of men and women who have told me they either organized or went to speed dating and scenarios came up where the women in the event picked barely anyone, with most women picking no one to even get to know better. Also had guys speak of women they were talking to at the event who come clean and tell them they're married or in a RL and they're just there to support their single friend. If you had success, then good for you...but I'm always skeptical if this scenario is you waiting for results or no results made. Plus girls like to do things in packs...hence all the tales of women coming out in packs of friends to do this. The way this one works is, everyone turns the cards in to the host and then she goes home and enters them in a system. Then it fires emails to all of the attendees telling them who matched whom. They have a website but they don't post the matches online. Only via email. I did notice that there were a lot of Grad school women, and there were also 2 roomates. They were really nice and talkative but I didn't see them write anything on their cards all night so I knew I wasn't going to hear from them. Maybe they were looking for an ego boost? I don't know. I couldn't stick around and talk to them because I had a prior engagement. I actually moved my meeting so that I could make this event. Heck, it was free! I'm happy with my match, although there were 2 other women who I really wanted to see again but hey. Can't win them all.
flc Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I like the idea, while you can't really get to know someone you certainly can get a feel for personality and figure out physical attraction. So a lot quicker than doing the emails, meeting for coffee route. I think the first date would probably be more comfortable as well since you have already met. This would probably be hell for shy people or introverts though. I find that after doing sales/marketing for 20 years I can talk to anyone anytime so meeting new people is old hat. For some people though it is intimidating.
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