i11 Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 My GF and I were in LDR for 3 years , and we were good friends over 12 years. We were good in the first 2 years. But she has been through a lot of pressure about her study and job last year, we argued a lot about these things. She is 27, I am 26, she also has pressure from her family at this point. Finally she just couldnt take responsibility for our LDR any more. What she said to me is : she wanted me to agree that she could give up "us" anytime she wanted. Since we've been in NC since then, I would call it a breakup. (it's not like we've decided that at the first place, but we both did that.) I'm definitely not over her yet, always feel sad about our past and couldnt stop missing her on holidays and any available moment. Her birthday comes in two weeks, I doubt if I could send her a birthday card/gift/email/sms, which I have done in the past 12 years. Yesterday I wrote her a long letter about what i've been through after the breakup, how my new life is, but today after having read so many threads about NC and breakup, I started to question my decision. Any advice or suggestion is appreciated.
kittyacid Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Hi, My opinion is don't post the letter don't contact her you need to leave her in the past. I know it is easier said than done. Some things are just not ment to be and while you are wasting time thinking about her you are dening yourself happiness. Maybe and most likely there is a great relationship around the corner for you but while you are looking backwards you wont notice it when it is right in front of you. As for her birthday comming up plan something fun to do on the day with ur mates to distract yourself. It is inevitable that you will think of her occasionally but don't obsess over it. Something that worked for me in the past to stop thinking about someone was everytime I thought of him I sang a stupid rhyme in my head some times in the begining I did this twenty times a day but it stopped the thought process and in time I rarely thought of him at all. Crazy suggestion I know. Time really does heal all wounds, sometimes a scar is left but even scars fade. Be happy you deserve it!
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