ninjaturtles Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Hi everyone, I would really appreciate it if I got as many reponses as possible. I really need your advice on this one. You all are simply amazing . I am moving away from the UK, back to my country of origin. Currently, I am in the UK. Well, My ex happens to hail from the country, (i.e we are both from the same country )but both of us are citizens of UK as well and currently live here. Well, if anyone of you remember, My ex and I broke up precisely a year ago. We broke up over the phone and have not seen ourselves for a year. He was quite cold to me immediately after the split, however he did manage to call me on my birthday etc. We have had very very light contact between the year. Anyway the question is - Since I am moving back to my country of origin (which is about 8 hours from UK), I was thinking maybe I should call my Ex on his birthday ( I did not call him on his last birthday, even though he called me). I was thinking of calling and meeting up for drinks before I move away. Please note that this has nothing to do with wanting a reconciliation. This is because I intend to pick a date very close to my date of departure so he realises that I have no intention of looking for reconciliation. (I.E I would be returning to my country and he wil be here in UK, so obviously the lack of proximity makes a relationship almost impossible). Should I do it? A part of me wants to see him for the last time (seeing as the last time we saw each other physically, we were still in a relationship..over a year ago). A part of me wants to ask him some questions (if the situation permits). What do I? Call and ask to meet up before I move ...or simply leave it? Thanks in advance for your replies.
Zapbasket Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I think you should do what feels right for you, and for the dynamics of your post-breakup relationship with your ex. But, since you asked for outside opinions.... I think it's better to let it go to rest. You're moving away, and your "goodbye" meetup is just as much "goodbye" as "hello" given that you haven't seen each other in a year. Why stir up feelings, in either of you?
kizik Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 IMO, there's never a good reason to speak to an ex. Even if you think that getting back together is a good reason - which you aren't posing as an idea here - it ain't, b/c what didn't work once will not work again. Take it from the guy that dated the same girl three times over the course of 12 years - it NEVER works - she's crazy, she was crazy, she'll always be crazy but I'm DUMB enough to let her f*ck with my head. No more though.
Violetta Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 If you want to see him it means that you still have "feelings" ( do you want to see EVERYONE you have known in the uk before you leave for home or just the ex?). Therefore, you are taking a big risk of being distressed if the meeting doesnt turn out as you wish or if he doesn't want to see you. Try to be strong and let it go.
DollWelch Posted October 13, 2008 Posted October 13, 2008 This is not a good idea, ninjaturtles. If you do contact him, or perhaps meet up with him one last time, it will only open up a can of worms -past wounds, experiences, relationships, and certainly feelings. I advice you against contacting him. Are you really just wanting to say your final goodbye? I highly doubt it, there is always 'something' about every situation. You should leave the door closed, and simply move on with your life.
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