johnnyboy8786 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 we broke up and she jumped into a rebound rite away.. she says he is just a friend but she spends all of her time with him.. should i start to date some one to see how she reacts? will that bring her back to me?
Sysyphus28 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 we broke up and she jumped into a rebound rite away.. she says he is just a friend but she spends all of her time with him.. should i start to date some one to see how she reacts? will that bring her back to me? No. Do you really want "seconds", after her new friend has had his way with your woman. Seriously. How can you trust her?? ouch man. I know how it feels, the more I don't talk to her the more I realize how far removed she is from what I want.
CaliGuy Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 we broke up and she jumped into a rebound rite away.. she says he is just a friend but she spends all of her time with him.. should i start to date some one to see how she reacts? will that bring her back to me? You can't make her love or want you. The best thing you can do is let her go. Go strict NC. If she wants you, it will be on her own accord. You can only screw things up worse by trying to manipulate her back into your life.
lofi_tokyo Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Definitely listen to Caliguy, that is solid advice. I know you are hurting right now, I've gone through something very similar but... fighting for her back will only bad things. a) You'll prolong your pain in losing her. b) You'll push her further away. Possibly to such an extent that she will not EVER want you near her again. Believe me on this one, two of my very best friends have broken up with guys who DID NOT LET GO, and they kept pushing and hoping and trying to get them back, that even years later, these boys let themselves by haunted by hopes of getting their girls back. Instead of these girls being happy, or flattered by being chased by their ex's, they were completely repulsed. Allow yourself to move on. Its hard, for sure, but you need to do this. Keep your dignity, and your ex will probably respect you years from now, that does not necessarily mean you'll win her back, but she will probably hold onto good memories of you, and you'll be remembered as a nice guy. If you chase after her when she needs time away from you, you'll lose her forever. Please listen to me on this. The first step in getting someone back, as weird as it sounds, is getting over them. When you're strong, and able to move on, you come off as sexy and confident. Hell, in getting over her, you may meet someone even BETTER! But, if you try to get her back now, if you bank on this rebound, you'll only end up disappointed, and most likely, in her eyes, completely undesirable.
ahhhchooo Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Yes, listen to the other posters. Your ex is probably in an exciting time right now with her rebound and this rebound relationship will probably fizzle at some point, who knows how long it will take. She may be using this relationship as a way to get over the break up - or not. You doing the same just to make her jealous isn't a good idea and could end up messy.
Jono Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Getting back your ex is never a good idea. A rule I live by with girls, is you can never go back. It's one of the hardest things in the world to get your head around, especially if you got done over but it's how it's gotta be. It's why relationships are so hard, cuz most come to an end and it usualy ends bad. Keep in mind that it's human nature to want wat you can't have, and that's alot of the reason you're suffering, cuz something you want and have had is out of your reach. It's like a kind of torture. The other thing is that if she's started something new she's got loads of happy making chemicals like oxycotin (probly spelt it wrong) and stuff going thru her brain helpuing her fight off the blues. It's one of the main reasons people do rebounds, plus fighting off the lonliness and horniness. If you can get a conveniant rebound and you think you can handle it (like you won't spend the entire time talking about your ex, pining for your ex etc.) and the girl you see understands that's what it is, then go for it. By the way, I feel for you dude, it sux when you are where you're at.
trueblue72ny Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 if you decide to date someone do it for yourself and not her. besides, that's not fair to your new date....
Hersheys Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 we broke up and she jumped into a rebound rite away.. she says he is just a friend but she spends all of her time with him.. should i start to date some one to see how she reacts? will that bring her back to me? You date someone because you want to get to know her and see if a relationship is possible not to make your ex react.
spirakusbl Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I think that it really depends on how much you like this girl and if you are willing to get her back. and if you are then do what you can cause the other guy shouldnt make you pull away if you know you better for her than he is. but i would try to start talking or going out on dates with another girl because you dont want to prolong the period it takes to get over her if she doesnt come back If you or anyone else needs more advice on relationships you can visit my blog in the sig
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