9Lives Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Hey LS I just need to talk to someone. Im at work and I have a great career but I am so sad cause I still cant stop thinking about my ex. I saw him this weekend. I wasnt talking to him and he text me to get his things. I said yes. It was apparent that he wanted to see me too. So we talked a little but I could tell he was happy to see me but was good with the decision of us not being together. I just feel like he does not love me anymore. He said he needs to be by himself to get himself together. I just dont understand why you have to stop being with someone if you love them to get thing back together. On Sunday, I went to his house and asked him to let me clear my head and ask some questions. He was nice and he doesnt want to be together. He has alot of baggage he is dealing with and I dont think he loves me. I feel like I have made things too easy for him. No challenge so he is not even worried about it cause he knows I love him and that is it. I feel like crap today.
SRV Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 You need to heal. You need to maintain the NC, a day at a time. It will get better. I have been in your situation, you cannot force someone to love you. Take this coming from a guy, we love challenges, go completely NC and start the healing process.
Sysyphus28 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Hey LS I just need to talk to someone. Im at work and I have a great career but I am so sad cause I still cant stop thinking about my ex. I saw him this weekend. I wasnt talking to him and he text me to get his things. I said yes. It was apparent that he wanted to see me too. So we talked a little but I could tell he was happy to see me but was good with the decision of us not being together. I just feel like he does not love me anymore. He said he needs to be by himself to get himself together. I just dont understand why you have to stop being with someone if you love them to get thing back together. On Sunday, I went to his house and asked him to let me clear my head and ask some questions. He was nice and he doesnt want to be together. He has alot of baggage he is dealing with and I dont think he loves me. I feel like I have made things too easy for him. No challenge so he is not even worried about it cause he knows I love him and that is it. I feel like crap today. That is a misconception alot of people have/had, including myself. You don't have to make it "hard" on the person if they break up with you, or get revenge(which in some cases would be SWEET)............so what if he knows you still love him. Loving someone isn't a bad thing. Your way of SHOWING HIM he isn't s*** to you is by...you guessed it!! Not talking to him anymore. Disappear and let him figure things out........people always say that...."I have to figure things out". It is a load of crap. A traumatic/life changing event can cause someone to need to "figure some things out",but really, they are just worming out of the relationship in the easiest way they know how. Textbook breakup crap. You want to see if he loves you. Ignore him. seriously. You get to recover from his baloney lies and yuo don't have to feel rejected.............it is awesome!
Author 9Lives Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 That is a misconception alot of people have/had, including myself. You don't have to make it "hard" on the person if they break up with you, or get revenge(which in some cases would be SWEET)............so what if he knows you still love him. Loving someone isn't a bad thing. Your way of SHOWING HIM he isn't s*** to you is by...you guessed it!! Not talking to him anymore. Disappear and let him figure things out........people always say that...."I have to figure things out". It is a load of crap. A traumatic/life changing event can cause someone to need to "figure some things out",but really, they are just worming out of the relationship in the easiest way they know how. Textbook breakup crap. You want to see if he loves you. Ignore him. seriously. You get to recover from his baloney lies and yuo don't have to feel rejected.............it is awesome! you f/cking geninus!!! lol...You got my ass out the dump for a second now. I agree. Love ya and thanks again. This is what I will do. Okay here we go. I actually was doing good and then I had a set back by seeing him. I have to remember...seeing the ex is never a good idea when you just broke up. It strengthen them and weakens you if you still want to be with that person. Thanks. Im going to change my thought. I know it is still going to be hard some days. Do you think sometimes people dont realize how much they love you until your gone? I was a good girlfriend. I supported him in everything he did. He did not cheat that I know of, but he just did not seem to value our relationship because I think he knew i loved him so much. I think that may have affected the relationship. I may have been too available or something. What do you think
Author 9Lives Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 You need to heal. You need to maintain the NC, a day at a time. It will get better. I have been in your situation, you cannot force someone to love you. Take this coming from a guy, we love challenges, go completely NC and start the healing process. I love it when a guys gives me his point of view. Im not trying to force him to love me. I just dont understand. We had alot in common. Like I said, I supported everything he did. Everything. We had great sex. I just feel like I was around too much and it got old or he wanted his freedom or something. He stop telling me he loved me awhile back. I dont know. We were together for 3 years. he did say his feeling has changed.
Author 9Lives Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 Yeah, that is correct. I'm hurting but Im putting one foot in front of the other. I know he is going to miss me. He is expecting me to run after him and be so desperate to accept his friendship or anything he gives me. Im not doing it.....I rather cry my eyes out before I start kissing his ass. He know I love him He know I did not want to break up I'm not giving my dignity away too. I have done enough. He was suppose to put my curtains up on Sunday. He did not do it and then today he comes at me in a text talking about he will do it tomorrow. I told him it has been taken care of but thanks. I know he thought I was using the curtains as a way to see him. I just let him know it is done so he can go on. I dont want to hold him back.
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