Kim666 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I have a soon to be 13 year old son. Now he is a relatively good kid, unfortunately he is also 5'8 and 240lbs which makes him way taller then me and his grandparents. My one major concern with him...he has a terrible attitude problem. He mouths back constantly. No matter what you say to him. He has anything any only child could ever want and I and his grandparents have done all we can think of to discipline (minus corporal punishment...don't believe in it) We have taken away privileges, his laptop, game systems, etc. I know he is a teenager (or will be Nov 2) but are his hormones really responsible for this. Any suggestions in how to deal with this would help
Ronni_W Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Following link may be helpful...though I haven't read this particular page (the chapter on 'parenting'), I've found other chapters to be informative. http://www.eqi.org/eqe96_10.htm A bit further down the page is a section on "Later Stages - The Turbulent Teenage Years" but you may need to read that in conjunction with the 'earlier years' to get most mileage out of it. Best of luck to you and your son.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I'm not there yet, but I have some struggles with an almost-12yr old boy. It seems to be worse when he comes home from staying a a friend's house. I deal with it by making him stay home and do chores. lol, don't know how long that will last. unfortunately, I think you really have to instill respect when they're young. My boy is a pretty good kid in general, but sometimes he goes off on his brothers and sister, or gets surly with me. I can just give him 'that look' and he'll sigh, stomp off, and take out the trash.
RecordProducer Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Building (maintaining) a close and loving relationship is the answer. Talk, confide in him, let him know how you feel about everything. Don't talk about his behavior - he'll correct it himself. Tell him about your weaknesses - not his. If you feel helpless, burst in tears, don't take his lap top away. Children are very sensitive to their parents' feelings. Once you show him you're not his enemy, he'll want to be your friend. Show him that you need his love and understanding. He will never understand that you want the best for him as long as he is a teenager. And he will always try to stand up against your requests for discipline. But you will disarm him if you wake up the mature side of him, if you show that you're sad or hurt or powerless. Give him the power and he will use it to make you happy.
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