SoundTribe Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 What are the stages of coping? as in the varying degrees of hurt. I'm trying to put together a plan so that I can see where I am, and get over this soon. Does anybody have any idea of the stages of coping, from the break up until completely moving on?
idiot Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]Denial[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]Denial is generally the first stage in the grief process. It can be experienced as numbness or avoidance or isolation or direct denial. It is a stage in which we just cannot believe that the loss is true. We may tell ourselves that it did not really happen. It does not seem real.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]Anger[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]Another stage of grief is anger. At this point, we have gotten past some or all of the denial, but now we are angry about the loss. We may want to take it out on something or someone, or we may just express our anger in ways that are familiar to us.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]Bargaining[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]In the bargaining stage, we are trying to come up with ways to get back what we lost or just find someone or something to blame. Common thoughts include "If only I had just …." or "I wish we could have…." or "Maybe if I do this…." In the case of a lost relationship, we might actually bargain with the person we lost in an effort to get them back. "If I change my behavior, will you come back?"[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]Depression[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]The depression stage is just as it sounds, a time of sadness. It generally follows denial, anger, and bargaining when we feel helpless and hopeless to stop the loss. It may include crying, withdrawal, or any other way that expresses sadness.[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]Acceptance[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Arial][sIZE=3]The final stage is acceptance. Most often we have gone through all of the above stages and in many cases cycled through the above stages more than once before getting to acceptance. At this stage, we have (to some extent) reorganized ourselves and our thinking to incorporate the loss. This does not mean that we no longer get sad about the loss from time to time, but the sadness is now a part of us and does not keep us from functioning normally most of the time. Over time, the intensity of the sadness generally diminishes, but may never entirely go away.[/sIZE][/FONT] Just a quick copy/paste. And i would like to add that that the stages doesn't necessarily go in that exact order and you might go "backwards" too. Atleast i have.. I don't even know at what stage i am now.
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