Woggle Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Tonight my wife and I were supposed to go to the Olive Garden for the never ending pasta and it turns out that she has something she has to finish at work so I am going with a friend. I am glad not because I don't want to go to dinner with her but I am afraid to pig out in front of her. I am paying $8.99 for all you can eat and I am taking full advantage but I don't want to look like a pig in front of her. Does anybody else feel like this?
audrey_1 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 It normally doesn't bother me to just eat in front of someone, but pigging out? Maybe. Let me qualify that by saying, with my ex-fiancee, he probably would be right there pigging out with me. I went from being in the best shape of my life to the worst shape of my life (up 2 dress sizes) during the 4 years I was with him. He never changed the way he treated me and said he loved me just the way I was, though I didn't. My most recent guy is a little more superficial. I would be more careful to watch what I eat around him, and I'm actually glad I had gotten back in shape before he came back into my life, or he probably wouldn't have given me a second look. So I definitely wouldn't be munching down on neverending pasta in his presence. MMM. Fettuccine Alfredo. Enjoy!
Ronni_W Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 but I don't want to look like a pig in front of her. Does anybody else feel like this? Has she commented on your portion sizes or on your "too-healthy" appetite numerous times before? And was she serious/judgmental at those times? If so, then I can see see how you would have developed a complex about it. If it is that you fear her criticism or negative judgment WITHOUT having any real (conscious) basis for that fear...maybe you'd want to take another look at what is going on within your own thoughts? Enjoy your meal any way you please, regardless
Geishawhelk Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I hate those places that do "all you can eat for 'such-and-such' "...I actually think they're partly to blame for an awful lot of food wastage.... Compromise. Eat all you can, but what you can't eat, have a doggie bag and take it home to share with your wife. Tell her you ordered more on purpose.....
Lishy Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 She must nag you about your weight or food comsumption Wogs Go and eat and enjoy!!
Shygirl15 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I don't understand why someone would feel uncomfortable with their spouses for any reason, and especially when it comes to things like minor things eating. If you were just dating, maybe.. but this is someone you live with every day of your life.
Jo78 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I am not afraid to eat in front of my SO and vice versa. He isn't even afraid to fart in front of me. But I would feel uncomfortable to pig out in a public place such as a restaurant. No matter who was there.
Trialbyfire Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 No, I eat the same way with or without company. I will admit that watching a date or SO snarfling food, bad table manners, etc. is gross. Chew with your mouth closed, wipe crap off your face, don't make continuous little noises while eating, take reasonable bites, don't ever point at me with a utensil, get your elbows off the table while eating and use the right utensils....plse...
Author Woggle Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 She never nags me but it is an issue I have. I also hope I get a male waiter instead of an attractive woman.
Geishawhelk Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I'm sorry.......? And that would be.... because.....?
Lizzie60 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Tonight my wife and I were supposed to go to the Olive Garden for the never ending pasta and it turns out that she has something she has to finish at work so I am going with a friend. I am glad not because I don't want to go to dinner with her but I am afraid to pig out in front of her. I am paying $8.99 for all you can eat and I am taking full advantage but I don't want to look like a pig in front of her. Does anybody else feel like this? 'SCARED'... that's a big word... are you scared of your wife?
Author Woggle Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 I'm sorry.......? And that would be.... because.....? Because I don't want to look like a pig in front of her. I am not even overweight but I am concious about this.
Geishawhelk Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Ok woggle, I'm sorry... You know, you do have a choice in all of this. If it's your table manners you're worried about - and I'm not reading anything into it, or saying it is - then just slow down, pause between mouthfuls, and wipe your mouth before drinking........ if it's the amount you eat - by slowing down, you'll eat less, because your fill-feeling will have adequate time to tell your hunger sensors enough is enough. When we bolt down our food, we accellerate the ingestion to such an extent that we 'overtake' the sated sensors..... Either way, you do have a say in what you do and how you do it. I really am not trying to be personal, but is this the only area you have issues with, in regard to doing it infront of your wife, or an attractive woman? And I'm not talking intimacy or the suchlike. I'm talking 'everyday' stuff. Because I don't think people think half of what you think they think....
Lishy Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Just go and pig out like the beast you are Wogs!!!!!!!!! Greedy bugger!! lol
Pyro Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Tonight my wife and I were supposed to go to the Olive Garden for the never ending pasta and it turns out that she has something she has to finish at work so I am going with a friend. I am glad not because I don't want to go to dinner with her but I am afraid to pig out in front of her. I am paying $8.99 for all you can eat and I am taking full advantage but I don't want to look like a pig in front of her. Does anybody else feel like this? For a guy who always claims to tell it how it is and to be yourself in front of others, this is weak. She is your partner in life and you are worried about your eating patterns? Just have some self control and you'll have nothing to worry about.
johan Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I'm often scared to eat in front of a date. Not so much scared as self-conscious. I invariably end up ordering something messy and difficult to eat. Then I keep thinking maybe I have something on my face and I get obsessive about using my napkin. Then it occurs to me I might have something still stuck to my teeth, so I avoid smiling too broadly or directly at her. And I can be found working my tongue around my mouth searching for stuff. This must be why people like to meet for coffee in the early days.
Pyro Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I'm often scared to eat in front of a date. Not so much scared as self-conscious. I invariably end up ordering something messy and difficult to eat. Then I keep thinking maybe I have something on my face and I get obsessive about using my napkin. Then it occurs to me I might have something still stuck to my teeth, so I avoid smiling too broadly or directly at her. And I can be found working my tongue around my mouth searching for stuff. This must be why people like to meet for coffee in the early days. But then you have yellowing teeth and bad breath to deal with.
whichwayisup Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Nope, not at all! Both my H and I have no issues or embarressment of pigging out infront of eachother. It's not like it was when we first started dating (I could not eat infront of him, not because I wasn't hungry but because of the butterflies and tummy flips!) and after 15 years together, it definately isn't an issue. Wog, you need to let loose and let your wife 'see' you in action! Stop being so self conscious, buddy!
Author Woggle Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 For a guy who always claims to tell it how it is and to be yourself in front of others, this is weak. She is your partner in life and you are worried about your eating patterns? Just have some self control and you'll have nothing to worry about. I am a human being and I can admit to having a weakness like everybody else. I am not saying that how I feel is right but I am afraid of looking like a pig in front of her.
Geishawhelk Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Woggle... really...... The only one who can make you look like a pig infront of her, is you. Have you actually thought about raising this issue with her? It might not be anywhere as near as bad as you believe it to be.... And honestly? The best way to clear a problem is to air it. You might well be pleasantly surprised to find that either she doesn't even give it a thought, and that therefore the perception of the problem is all on your side, or that she too may have issues about things to do with her, that bother her in the same way.
Pyro Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I am a human being and I can admit to having a weakness like everybody else. I am not saying that how I feel is right but I am afraid of looking like a pig in front of her. You married this woman. You shouldn't have any worries like that. Like I said before, just have some self-control. If she is going to judge you on your eating habits, then there are much more bigger things to worry about.
johan Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I think the night will be a success if, after it's all over, she looks shocked and says, "I don't even know who you are."
Citizen Erased Posted October 10, 2008 Posted October 10, 2008 I don't think it's too big of a deal, certainly not anything to worry about. So you don't want to pig out in front of her, it's not like you don't eat at all in front of her in fear that she thinks you're a disgusting pig.
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