Bells Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 There was this time, this girl wanted to stay in touch with me, we emailed and talked on the phone back a and forth a couple of times, and she said she wanted to continue to stay in touch, she said if there's anything going on in town, to let her know, and we could go out. I sent her an email about something going on....no response...I sent her a 2nd email saying, "Hey, did you get my first email about "so and so"...no response. So I wait a week or 2, and send her "You still alive" email? And she goes "LOL, yeah, I'm still alive....but please, let's stay in touch" AGAIN she says, "Let's stay in touch!" Guess what....wash rinse repeat. With that said, and I'm sure many of you gents experienced this....do you eventually confront the woman and ask her what her friggin' problem is?
Geishawhelk Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I'd have sent her a message saying:- "Tried that. Didn't work. Bye."
Davey McG Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I wouldn't bother confronting. Just delete her email address and drop contact - move on. If she wants to contact you be polite but keep the mails short. It doesn't seem she's interested in you and getting upset or annoyed with someone you barely know will have her alarm bells going off about you. The whole "lets keep in touch" thing is just politeness. You will gain nothing from confronting her apart from looking like a psychopath. She'll then go on to tell her girlfriends that you're a freak and it could damage your reputation. Walk away and focus your energy elsewhere
Author Bells Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 I wouldn't bother confronting. Just delete her email address and drop contact - move on. If she wants to contact you be polite but keep the mails short. It doesn't seem she's interested in you and getting upset or annoyed with someone you barely know will have her alarm bells going off about you. The whole "lets keep in touch" thing is just politeness. You will gain nothing from confronting her apart from looking like a psychopath. She'll then go on to tell her girlfriends that you're a freak and it could damage your reputation. Walk away and focus your energy elsewhere Well, I actually don't go that far.....I just send a "So, last call, we still talkin'?" That's pretty much it, didn't lay into her or anything.
D-Jam Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 While we all would love to call out the game players, it just doesn't work out that way. Confrontation shows that person they bothered you and you were needy for them. They'll either think you're a creepy psycho, or just claim it to cover their own arse, or they'll just front an ego and believe they're better than you in life...so playing you was totally in their right because they see you as a lesser being. I like the "tried that...didn't work" line. I usually just tell them, "well, based on when I called you last time...I think I'll leave that ball in your court rather than waste the energy." Frankly, I am of the mind I call ONCE and if I get the voicemail, I leave a message and never call again until she calls me. I'll usually move on 2 days after leaving the voicemail. The problem with getting mad, making a scene, or even a polite confrontation is that the people who play games constantly tell themselves excuses to be in the right...so it won't make one bit of difference. If they didn't respect you enough to treat you like an adult, then any words you say won't matter to them one bit...because they see you as a lesser being. Maybe violence will scare the hell out of them, but I'd like to think we're all civilized. Best to leave them be, know who they are by their actions, not hand out 2nd chances, and let karma do the rest. For me it seems to be a poetic justice how every woman who plays games with me ends up in one or more bad RLs or worse destroys their life somehow by their own bad judgments.
Lizzie60 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 There was this time, this girl wanted to stay in touch with me, we emailed and talked on the phone back a and forth a couple of times, and she said she wanted to continue to stay in touch, she said if there's anything going on in town, to let her know, and we could go out. I sent her an email about something going on....no response...I sent her a 2nd email saying, "Hey, did you get my first email about "so and so"...no response. So I wait a week or 2, and send her "You still alive" email? And she goes "LOL, yeah, I'm still alive....but please, let's stay in touch" AGAIN she says, "Let's stay in touch!" Guess what....wash rinse repeat. With that said, and I'm sure many of you gents experienced this....do you eventually confront the woman and ask her what her friggin' problem is? I think you would waste your time.. from what I read here.. you seem to be the 'clingy-needy' guy.. that is a huge turn-off.. maybe that's why they just 'ignore' you.. my advice: ignore them.. once you send the first email.. just leave them alone..
Crestfallen_KH Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Why are you giving HER all the power to make the decision of whether or not you talk? Repeatedly reaching out to her to say "oh, are we still talking??" makes you look desperate and needy (a huge turnoff) and tells her she has all the control. Take your power back and decide only to talk to girls who want to talk to you.
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