am i overreacting? when angry are they usually true words?

[awesomeness43]

So my gf and i have been together 4 months. see each other about every other week and occasional week long vacations together. Lately weve both been busy and usually she'll call me after class. Today, she didn't and i didn't call her just to see what she would do.

 

She finally called and i was just upset and just said a few things and hung up on her. She calls back and i ignored it. Very immature, yes. Please do not say i am over protective or what not because i don't mind her going out or clubbing/partying and actually suggest she go out with friends and have fun. Its just i was a bit upset that she said she would and didn't or "seemed to have forgotton" about me.

 

Well, she then sends me a txt message, "you're a fcking jerk, dont ever talk to your gf that way" blha blha. When i didn't say anytning mean, all i said was basically "whatever, and hung up".

 

Hours later, she calls me and i pick up. Everything seemed fine and i joked how that was a mean txt. She then said that she was about to send a meaner txt but didn't. I asked what it was. It was along the lines of " gawd, your a horrible bf. My friends agree" blah blah. when for the longest time shes been telling me how i was a great bf and given her no reason to doubt that. I really don't know as though lately we've been having little spats.

 

She says she didn't send it because she didn;t mean it and that she was just super mad and wanted to think of things to say to make me super mad.

 

What should i do? Did i overreact? I have been thinking of a break with her for a while and that might of been a tipping point. Do you think she meant it or if there was any truth in it or just to say out of spite to make me mad in the heat of the moment? How do i and we as a couple get over it or shoudl i just forget about her?

[Ronni_W]

I'd say your instinct to break up with her is right on the money.

You're playing games ("just to see what she would do") and you're not even bothering to listen to her ("blah blah") -- you've lost interest in her feelings and opinions, and your mind would rather play games (get into power struggles, look for an 'upper hand') than think about ways that you both are, or can in the future, positively contribute to, support and encourage, each other.

You have great instincts -- I'd encourage you to follow them.

[crimsonrose]

I'd say your instinct to break up with her is right on the money.

You're playing games ("just to see what she would do") and you're not even bothering to listen to her ("blah blah") -- you've lost interest in her feelings and opinions, and your mind would rather play games (get into power struggles, look for an 'upper hand') than think about ways that you both are, or can in the future, positively contribute to, support and encourage, each other.

You have great instincts -- I'd encourage you to follow them.

 

I agree with this. I think it was wrong of her to not call you for so long- this panics people in LDRs. However, the way you reacted, and then the way you wanted to break up with her because of this... somethings off.

 

Its ok to break up with her Sounds like you two are headed that way anywho, poor thing.