grogster Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 We're creatures of habit, Star. You're probably accustomed to sleeping alone. This new guy breaks your routine. Also, his new-found presence stimulates you. I recommend an Ambien night or two. Try to break the pattern. I know that I almost always sleep better, alone. That's what I'm used to. Good luck with the new guy.
Lishy Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 You need to work out WHY you are not sleeping and then you can solve the issue! Nerves, excitement, weirdness at sharing your bed etc
konfuzd Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I've had that problem since I was a child. My mom gave me a clock that made a ticking sound, when I'd go to a sleepover, I'd bring the clock, and set it next to the bed. If it annoyed people, or I didn't have it, I'd put my watch close to my ear where I could hear the ticking. I'd focus on the sound until I'd go to sleep. Now that I'm older, I use my bf's breathing to focus on, I just listen and try to sync my breathing with his, and it works like a charm.
allina Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Sounds like you're just nervous that you'll snore and fart in your sleep
spinningwheels Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 It takes me awhile to get comfortable enough to sleep with anyone in bed with me. I have lived with a man, and it took months to get into the proper position. I was always too hot, or cold, or cramped or smothered. We finally got the hang of it and slept peacefully for years! Now, I have been on my own for awhile and used to my own space. Whenever I have sleepovers, I never sleep well. If I go on vacay with a man, it takes a few days for me to get comfortabe in sharing bed space. I'm used to taking both sides!
rod_in_gtown Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 SG, I had the same problem when I spent the nights with height-dumper. I had a really hard time falling asleep. yet she slept like a pet rock. I really REALLY liked her, I think I wanted more than just sleep, I wanted to take it all in at the same time, I was wondering what she was thinking and when we would see each other next. It's a little hard to explain. I felt really at ease and comfortable with her. She smelled nice, we spooned really nicely, but for some reason I ended up tossing and turning. I don't think it's a problem. I think you'll get to the point where you'll fall asleep together without problems. While you're awake, just caress, spoil each other. say sweet nothings, enjoy each other. I'm guessing this is best-date-ever guy?
Mary3 Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I sense you don't truly feel comfortable dozing off with him in bed next to you. While you say you feel totally comfortable , I don't think you do completely. I realize it feels weird to sleep in an unfamiliar place I think you dont deeply know him well enough to feel the slumber... Maybe I am wrong about that. How well do you really know him ? Do you have long talks and shared many experiences in life ?
carhill Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Hey, sorry to hear about your issues. IME, I slept alone for nearly 20 years, other than a few overnight dates, and never had any issues with sleeping with my wife; still don't, even though she snores and patrols the bed like a warden when she's asleep I think the key is that I've always been comfortable in my personal space. Slept with guys in hotel rooms, tents and campers. Same with girls. No issues. No problems with nudity either and I'm no prize. I think the issues have nothing to do with another person (the guy in this case) but reside within you. Heck, my wife and I can yell at each other and still sleep like two oysters in a shell. We may be frustrated with each other but are still comfortable within our respective skins. I think, with MC, this is even more the case. Less uncertainty to cloud sleep patterns.
D-Lish Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I always have problems sleeping with a new person in my bed. I am just so used to sleeping alone. My BIGGEST fear? I am afraid that I might fart in my sleep:eek:. That makes it hard for me to fall asleep thinking that could happen. I remember being out in a huge group with my ex bf - and we had become good friends after dating. Someone brought up being annoyed that their new gf snored and my ex piped up and said "that's okay, Dee farts in her sleep". :eek:..... Since that- I worry I might fall asleep and wake a new bf up with a scary sound. lol. I think it's normal in the beginning. I combat this by having two duvets. I make them sleep under one and I sleep under the other. It gives me some comfort and helps a bit.
nicki Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 Naked always works and trumps anything else! Worried about farting? Just blame it on him if it happens! And laugh. But, I know what you mean, Star. I prefer sleeping alone, and it takes a while to get in synch with someone else's sleep habits so they don't wake you up. Perfectly normal. Just make sure you have lots of mind-blowing sex so you will simply pass out after in utter exhaustion!
oceangrl Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 I sometimes have trouble sleeping too - on days when I'm really horny and hes really sleepy
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