tulip26 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Hello, I have been dating a man since February. He asked me to be his girlfriend officially in May, which I agreed to. We used to see each other about every other week, sometimes more sometimes less. He introduced me to his family, not so very long ago. So he wasn't hiding me. I have stayed over at his house many times, so I know he's not married. We both are very busy, and he lives about an hour away, so we didn't see each other that often, but I always felt it was often enough for our situation. However, I have now not seen him for a whole 4 weeks. Four weeks is a long time. I may get to see him this weekend. If not this weekend then the next. He worked the first weekend, the next 2 weekends he helped his new roommate move in, and last weekend he moved some of his stuff into his new house. He didn't get it all moved in though, however, he thinks it won't take long for the rest. So, I am not sure what to do here. One whole month is a long time to go without seeing your girlfriend. He does call me, and asks about me, and tells me about himself. He said I would like his new place. So, it's not like he is just completely disappearing. He is also moving closer to me. And should be done moving soon. I am feeling very frustrated though, because I think if he really wanted to be with me he would have made time sometime in the last four weeks. But I haven't yet told him I was unhappy with this situation. Should I A) Talk to him about it and give him about a month to get his act together B) Not talk to him about it and still give him a month to get his act together, since he is moving so much closer I should be able to see him. C)Forget talking about it, and just dump him I really like him, and I don't want split. But, if this continues, I am not going to stay with somebody I don't see. Also, I can't help but wonder if he is losing interest. But, if this is the case, I would still like to try a few things to see if I can get it back. But I'm not going to waste all my time on it. Sorry, I know this is long. What do you think? And there is something else I would like your opinion on (but the top is my main priority right now): One night when I was with him, I had a dream (I thought) where he whispered "I love you". Another night, I was half asleep, and I thought I heard him say it, and I asked what, and I thought he said it again, then I asked what again, and he said something completely different. Then, when we were on the phone one time, I thought he said it, but I was talking at the same time he was, so I'm not sure. I don't know if he ever really said it, or I was just imaganing it. And if he did say it, then would this cause him to become a bit distant, since I didn't really aknowledge it. What to do about this?
Crestfallen_KH Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 At this point in life, I've basically come to the conclusion that, if you are asking yourself if you should break up with someone, then you already know the answer... I've never asked myself this question if I was still 100% committed and desirous of the relationship.
Trialbyfire Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 No matter how busy a person is, they always make time for someone they want to be with. All you can do is make your needs known to him. It's up to him to meet your needs. If he doesn't, the ball's in your court.
flc Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 No matter how busy a person is, they always make time for someone they want to be with. Truth, if he was highly interested he would find time. It seems like too many other things are more important. Do you want to be #5 on his priority list?
konfuzd Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Do you always wait for him to make plans with you, or do you initiate? Why couldn't you have gone over to help him move? Or offered to cook him dinner while he's doing heavy lifting?
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