EMBeee Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Ok so... I was wondering what some of you do in the instance that your long distance partner is a big flirt and admits that they are a big flirt but lets you know that they would never do anything??? Well, my partner flirts majorly!!! It's to the point now where i am getting very very insecure about it and also very very jealous!!! I don't think I can take this anymore!!! Check this out: He's on his "home" phone with me while he's texting some girl on his cellphone!! He tells me what he texts her while we're on the phone but it really irks me! She talks to him becuase she's married and has a "dilemma" because she's french kissing some dude while her husband is deployed... and so she talks to MY man about it because this other dude wants to get her in bed and she doesn't want to because that would be "cheating" on her husband who's deployed and she doesn't consider kissing cheating. WOW! So the other day, I found out that she picks him up for work ... he let her come to his home to bake some pies... and he lets her use his computer that's in his room because she has no internet access. He tells me all of this, and to top things off... he tells me that people at their work are "talking" because they see them together all the time and they are spending lots of time together but my bf and this girl LOVE playing mind games with people and love the idea that people are talking!!! ok then!!! So... another thing... he didn't answer the phone one night and I found out the next day - he told me - that he had this girl over, his sister was also over... and "some" guy!!! Right - the "some" guy must've been his sisters boyfriend and he wanted to make it sound like this chick brought a dude over - I'm no fool!! I don't think he's doing anything with her but it's sure pissing me off! How rude!!! He's coming here in 4 days!!! And he does this... sometimes I feel like ignorance is bliss and I'd rather not know who he's "partying" with. I'm sure he'd LOVE it if I went to some dudes house and baked some pies in his oven and had this guy drive me to work everyday and partied with him.... not to mention there is yet ANOTHER girl that he messages all the time... she even just recently moved him up quite a few spots on myspace on her top list. And you know another funny thing... both these girls are early 20's.... and TAKEN!!! he's 29 and claims he doesn't like girls that are young... but every girl that I know he's ever been interested in are early 20's. With me.... I'm 27.... and he started trying to get with me when I was still in a relationship. He knew I was vulnerable and went for it. It worked because I'm a fool. And now I'm the one to go through this BS!!! I'm just plain sick of it... but if I talk to some guy or even his friend - even though it's innocent... he gets VERY jealous!!!!!! To each is their own I guess. Anyone else go through this BS???
i11 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I think, it's better to stay out of this unhealth LDR as soon as possible, it wouldnt work
Lizzie60 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 WOW.. I have to say that I find you very naive.. Drop the jerk.. he's cheating on you .. and you're too _____ (fill in the blank) to see it.. WOW... PLUS he's laughing right at you.. in your face.. and you're letting him be disrespectful and rude to you... Well.. I don't have any advice except to move on.. and if you keep this jerk.. then you deserve to be laughed at and cheated on.. it's that simple... I will never understand why women allow idiots like that to 'abuse' them.. oh well..
Trialbyfire Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Embee, why don't you suggest he go bake pies in four days, instead of visiting? Anyone who can't give respect to their SOs, needs to be given permanent freedom to practice their disrespect on someone else.
crimsonrose Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Aw honey.. He may not be cheating you, but I've a feeling he would if he knew he'd never get caught. And if he's not now he would later. He probably just enjoys the rush of flirting, but do you really want that for you when you're so loyal to him? You do need to end this before it gets deeper. And if you feel we're wrong about that, then TALK to him about this.
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