mickey12 Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I was seeing this guy for 2 months. We weren’t official but we both weren’t seeing anyone else. One night that we had organise to hang out he said he doesn’t know whether we should cause his going away on Friday for 4 months (coming home for a few days-weeks in between before he goes again he is a professional surfer) This hurt me but I accepted it. He told me he thought I was amazing and he really liked me just didn’t want to make it harder for both of us when he left by seeing each other now. Well he went and I didn’t try and contact him, and then 2 weeks later I received a message off him whilst he as in a 2 day stop over in Sydney, he said he missed me and wished he could come home and see me. We talked a lot ion those 2 days and then he departed again for overseas. We stayed in contact and he sent me a message one day saying he returns home in 4 days and that we should catch up, do dinner and he misses me. Well he came home and I didn’t hear off him I sent him a message saying how was your trip and he wrote back but whenever I seemed to mention hanging he ignored it. I sent him another message the next day saying we should do something soon and he didn’t reply so I said why aren’t you replying and he wrote "yeh im keen to do something". I confronted him a day later saying "if you don’t want to hang tell me" and he said "I kinda do but it might just make things harder because I have to go again in 7 days". I then sent a message saying well why say you want to and you miss me when obviously you don’t" to which he replied "I thought I did want to see you but I don’t sorry to lead you on". Since then he wont talk to me at all completely ignores me. I sent him one last message saying "Hey fully understand you don’t want anything it wouldn’t have worked from both sides, just want to be friends no ill feelings". I never heard off him. Haven’t contacted him since, its been 4 days Why does he all of a sudden seem to hate me? Did I cluster him too much and freak him out, is there another girl, is he scared of getting attached again? Did he just come home and want his freedom and a one-night stand with no strings attached? Please help why won’t he talk at all I feel like I’ve done something terribly wrong and im beating myself up about it.
lonelyandfrustrated Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Hey, I didn't want you to feel ignored. How much did you see each other during the two months? Do you really want a relationship with someone who is gone most of the time? If you have a need for regular companionship with your guy, maybe you should keep looking and find someone more available. As to your real questions; I have no idea why he's not contacting you. Could be someone else, could be that to him you appeared too needy, could be he was looking for something casual, could be he's a jerk, could be lots of things. Don't beat yourself up about it. Sometimes it's a blessing when we no longer talk with people; keeps them as a memory, instead of an ongoing problem.
mortensorchid Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 This is kind of strange. That he returns from his trip and then he doesn't want to see you. Still, sounds like you dodged a bullet. You should move on.
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