Moving to LA and still missing my ex who lives there...

[pr-girl]

I'm back... again. You guys are the only people I could talk to about this. You always seem to help me and I always appreciate it.

 

Many of you know me. My LD ex lives in LA and I live in Las Vegas. We were friends for almost a year when we had began dating. We only dated for about 3 months when he cut if off because it was too hard to do long distance.

 

We stayed NC for 3 months and began a friendship again in July. I was just in LA again this past weekend. I didn't let him know I was going this time because I didn't want to see him and miss him all over again. He saw that I was heading there on my MySpace page and emailed me. He knew a client of mine was performing at a music venue that weekend and came to the concert to support us. I would catch him staring at me at times and he was very sweet, as always, like when he was dating me. I felt that there was still something there between us.

 

I recently began dating a guy in Las Vegas who I thought I was excited about - until now. After seeing my ex, I feel nothing for this new guy. I only want my ex again. We've been broken up since February and I'm still in love with him.

 

I move to LA in March for work, family and my passions. I'm nervous about being so close to him. What if distance wasn't the only reason he broke up with me? I'm not getting my hopes up thinking we will be together in LA, but I can't help but think it could work now since I'll be there.

 

I don't want to talk to him about this because we are finally able to talk and have fun together without talking about "feelings." The talks are always so exhausting to both of us and it hurts us all over again. I don't want to have my heart broken again by this man. But, how am I supposed to move there and NOT think of him? I'm having a hard enough time in Vegas trying not to think of him.

 

I'm just so damn confused and wish I could get passed this.

[SoundTribe]

LA is a massive city. You will meet a new man in no time.

[tealeafbud]

 

I'm just so damn confused and wish I could get passed this.

 

pr girl, that's a difficult situation to be in, especially since you have started talking again. I have a feeling it wouldn't have been complicated if you weren't communicating. But that's neither here nor there.

 

In my opinion, it's all about making a decision. Where do you want that ex relationship go? You probably know that you shouldn't stay in this "middle ground" for very long because it could affect all areas of your life.

 

YOu could give it another college try as they say, but just know what you want. The last thing you want is to break up all over again.

 

You could also just forget about the geography and not contact him at all. Harder than it sounds, but more beneficial to your well being especially if you know it's not going to work.

 

sorry if you're more confused. Hope you find some clarity soon.