copperboy Posted August 23, 2003 Posted August 23, 2003 My girlfriend of 4 years an I grew apart but are still very much in love... She left to stay with her sister a month ago and now is back to move her stuff out. She says I had a chance to work it out during this month but for the first week I wasn't too worried then when I realy started to try she was too buisy planing a friends wedding to spend time together. Now she wants to move on and live on her own and I have been truly doing everything I can to show her how much I still love her but it dosen't help. I know there is some outside influance from her friends and she says she is still confused... I ran into her at the beach with a guy she works with and she had a very hurtfull grin on her face when I asked her if she is seeing him but says that she isn't. She moved most of her stuff out yesterday and brokedown a few times and even got physicaly sick. I don't want to see her hurt and don't want her to make the bigest mistake of her life but I have tried everything. We are not angry or fighting and she says she loves me. I feel sick to my stomach , can't eat or sleep but what can I do. I don't want to loose her, she is all I have. If I phone to talk or do something she says she will phone back but never does... I am in despair but think I just have to let her go... Any sugestions will help...
Tony T Posted August 23, 2003 Posted August 23, 2003 I think you are quite right in your need to let her go. If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn't have moved out. She's not confused, she's doing exactly what she wants. She got sick because she felt guilty...and, of course, the future is sometimes a little scary. Try not to get upset with the system for working just like it's supposed to. If either party to a relationship no longer wants to be there, they break up. Yeah, it's sad and it takes some time to get over it. But you have to figure that until you find Ms. Right, it's going to happen just that way. Cease all contact with the lady and try no more to keep her interested. She's moved on. Be strong, heal and then take some time to find new love. That will happen. The system hurts but it also works.
Author copperboy Posted August 23, 2003 Author Posted August 23, 2003 Ya, I'll have to try I guess. Sometimes I don't know if I want her back for her or cause of all the changes and everything that I will lose. She bought a dog a year ago that she no longer wants and I also have a house and may not be able to keep it cause I quit my high paying job 2 years back to strenghten our relationship. Time to start life anew. Bye bye house, bye bye internet, Hello dog food!! Wow, telling strangers about your problems sure makes you feel better
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