chicaleeka Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 ok this is not meant to be innapropriate but: how important is it to men for women to have firm bouncy breasts? i'm laughing hysterically right now at writing this but... seriously, i consider myself an extremely attractive woman in every way, except for this area because of having and nursing a baby a few yrs ago really messed up my boobs. i'm single now, and dating, and every time i get close to intamacy with a man i hold back because of that. is it lame to keep your bra on during sex? or do most guys not even care? i need feedback so i can either a) boost my confidence or b) run and get them fixed immediately so i dont scare some poor guy away... they're not like 90 yr old grandma boobs but... i definately cringe when looking in the mirror...
Enema Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Most guys won't care. Especially the ones that know you have a child - they'd have to be aware that things like that are common. If they really bother you, you could always get a breast lift.
Trialbyfire Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 You'll find that it's important to some men and not to others. More importantly, how do you view yourself? To attach too much importance to breasts defining femininity, isn't an emotionally balanced approach for women. To use an old cliche, you're a sum of all your parts.
Lizzie60 Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 ok this is not meant to be innapropriate but: how important is it to men for women to have firm bouncy breasts? i'm laughing hysterically right now at writing this but... seriously, i consider myself an extremely attractive woman in every way, except for this area because of having and nursing a baby a few yrs ago really messed up my boobs. i'm single now, and dating, and every time i get close to intamacy with a man i hold back because of that. is it lame to keep your bra on during sex? or do most guys not even care? i need feedback so i can either a) boost my confidence or b) run and get them fixed immediately so i dont scare some poor guy away... they're not like 90 yr old grandma boobs but... i definately cringe when looking in the mirror... You should work on your 'self confidence'. Men won't 'notice' your breasts as much if you seem confident about your body. Secondly.. if you are feeling really bad about it.. you can either get a lift only.. no silicone... or you can wear a nice piece of lingerie and keep it on...
flc Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 If you left your bra on that would be a turn off. If all things are equal I would prefer a firm c-cup but size and firmness is not going to change the way I feel about someone. My current gf is 49 she breastfed three kids so she is not very firm and like you she is self conscious about it. She has talked about getting implants and I have told her that nothing changes for me either way. The first time we slept together she also wanted to leave her top on and that bothered me, not because I did not like her breasts but because of her lack of self confidence. We have gotten past that. I think it is more important you are confident and happy with who you are than anything else, that is what is sexy
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 ok this is not meant to be innapropriate but: how important is it to men for women to have firm bouncy breasts? i'm laughing hysterically right now at writing this but... seriously, i consider myself an extremely attractive woman in every way, except for this area because of having and nursing a baby a few yrs ago really messed up my boobs. i'm single now, and dating, and every time i get close to intamacy with a man i hold back because of that. is it lame to keep your bra on during sex? or do most guys not even care? i need feedback so i can either a) boost my confidence or b) run and get them fixed immediately so i dont scare some poor guy away... they're not like 90 yr old grandma boobs but... i definately cringe when looking in the mirror... If it really matters to a guy... you don't want him anyway. Besides, it is more than likely an issue only for the guys that just want you for sex.
Meaplus3 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I think if a guy does not date a woman solely on how perky or not perky her breasts appear is simply shallow and if that's the case not worthy of your time. However, the most important thing is how YOU feel about your boobs. AP:)
Sks Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 You are going to have to remove you're shirt sometime, but sex where the girl has a top on(such as a tank top) and no bottom is - highly erotic.
Lizzie60 Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 If you left your bra on that would be a turn off. If all things are equal I would prefer a firm c-cup but size and firmness is not going to change the way I feel about someone. My current gf is 49 she breastfed three kids so she is not very firm and like you she is self conscious about it. She has talked about getting implants and I have told her that nothing changes for me either way. The first time we slept together she also wanted to leave her top on and that bothered me, not because I did not like her breasts but because of her lack of self confidence. We have gotten past that. I think it is more important you are confident and happy with who you are than anything else, that is what is sexy Hum... for a lot of men.. fine lingerie (tops) are highly arousing.. I sometimes keep my sexy top on.. and just put the straps down.. so they can take out the boobs ... very erotic..
Balthazar Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 I don't know the cost of such surgery and possible complications, but a boob lift may not be a bad idea in your case. You will feel better about yourself as well as look better and this will affect all your interactions with men positively. Most men will probably appreciate it and will ask you to please take your top off. Actually, that will probably happen whether you nip/tuck or not. CHeers,
D-Jam Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 My girlfriend has small boobs. Doesn't bother me at all. During sex her nipples are still sensitive...gives her extra pleasure when I massage them or pinch them. From what I've heard from other guys, big boobs just tend to get in the way more than be some amazing sexual thing.
Author chicaleeka Posted October 9, 2008 Author Posted October 9, 2008 wow thank u all for the great advice, makes me feel much better.
sweetbutcheeky Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 My girlfriend has small boobs. Doesn't bother me at all. During sex her nipples are still sensitive...gives her extra pleasure when I massage them or pinch them. From what I've heard from other guys, big boobs just tend to get in the way more than be some amazing sexual thing. Hmmm How would big boobs get in the way? LOL Never had that problem! Also big small has nothing to do with some amazing sexual thing, has to do with personal preference for the guy, some like small, some like big. For the woman big small still feel the same sensations. To the OP find a way to feel more comfortable with the way you are and have fun playing with different lingerie. Though the guys didn't know what they looked like before, only you did so they probably won't even notice.
RecordProducer Posted October 9, 2008 Posted October 9, 2008 If they are nice, men love them. If they aren't - they don't mind. If you fix them, they will love them. If you don't, they don't care. Much like us, right? If a man has nice shoulders or hair or whatever body part, you'll enjoy looking at it or touching it. But if he is average or has a flaw, you won't really mind it. It's all about the package. Boobs are really not that important and they are certainly not a deal breaker when it comes to attractiveness. Besides, you see your boobs as saggy, but a man who likes your face will LOVE your boobs too - I guarantee you that. Please male specimens, correct me if I'm wrong.
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