alwayssme Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 ...is a new relationship with someone we like and likes us. I think that is the solution. Wouldn't it be great to not even care about our ex'es anymore? If we could just forget about them through the day and then realize "wow I haven't thought of him/her all day"...to devote our whole attention to someone who actually WANTS to be with us and that we actually really like and aren't forcing it..haha i wish i could get to that point. Also some advice (coming from someone who's really hurting) going out helps for the moment. It may not take away the pain for ever, but for those amounts of time it helps. Associate yourself with single people, I find it when I hear about love and how happy couples are, I feel depressed and miss my ex even more! Working or studying doesn't really make me feel that much better. It's not just simply about being busy, it's about being busy with something or people that you enjoy! All I know is that winter is coming and it feels lonely, especially thinking of the holidays. I want to love again. Being single is no fun for me!
Nemo Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Great post. And you're right - what we all need is paragraphs. I couldn't have said it any better.
CherishG Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 alwayys, I was contemplating the same thoughts the first few weeks after the breakup. I thought it was the "easy" way out, to get involved with someone new, but in all honesty, don't rush into another relationship, when ur heart isn't fully and completely over ur ex. believe me when I tell u, that I have witnessed many of my gf's doing the same thing, jumping into "rebound" relationships to get over or fill that void their ex'es left them with, but in the end, it will hurt even more. Take this time to love YOURSELF, to get stronger by YOURSELF... it would be such a shame if we rushed into another relationship, then make our "new" partner fall head over heels in love with us... We wouldn't love them "WHOLE HEARTEDLY" because we haven't fully recovered from our exes. we would literally be just like our exes... you need to find that inner peace, glue the pieces back of ur broken heart before you give it to someone else.
Karma101 Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Your happiness (or lack thereof) can't be defined by being in a relationship w/ someone else. Latching onto someone else is the eptiomy of being clingy/needy. I know you're hurting. Forget about being in a relationship right now. You're young. Go have fun. Figure out who "you" are.
Author alwayssme Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 alwayys, I was contemplating the same thoughts the first few weeks after the breakup. I thought it was the "easy" way out, to get involved with someone new, but in all honesty, don't rush into another relationship, when ur heart isn't fully and completely over ur ex. believe me when I tell u, that I have witnessed many of my gf's doing the same thing, jumping into "rebound" relationships to get over or fill that void their ex'es left them with, but in the end, it will hurt even more. Take this time to love YOURSELF, to get stronger by YOURSELF... it would be such a shame if we rushed into another relationship, then make our "new" partner fall head over heels in love with us... We wouldn't love them "WHOLE HEARTEDLY" because we haven't fully recovered from our exes. we would literally be just like our exes... you need to find that inner peace, glue the pieces back of ur broken heart before you give it to someone else. Cherish, your baby is so cute! i'm not considering getting into a relationship at this moment, that would only destroy me even more, but it feels nice to have someone who is comforting you and being there for you through this terrible time! that's all, and i do want to fall in love again, maybe right now i'm very needy because i lost the one i love the most, but the pain is too much to bear and i'm doing the best i can to deal with it
lofi_tokyo Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 ...is a new relationship with someone we like and likes us. I think that is the solution. Wouldn't it be great to not even care about our ex'es anymore? If we could just forget about them through the day and then realize "wow I haven't thought of him/her all day"...to devote our whole attention to someone /quote] How about trying out a relationship with yourself. Love yourself! What can you do for YOU. Set high goals and stride towards them. The future is uncertain, and you can use all this free time you have to make a difference in your life, for the better.
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