Isolde Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 I'm suddenly totally, 100% sure this is never gonna work out for me. I feel an odd peace about this. Maybe it's best just to talk about dating and relationships rather than actually having them anyway
JamesM Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Are you telling us because the decision is reversible? How old are you and what led you to "quit?" Did you know that when many people quit looking, the next person they meet is the one whom they end up marrying?
Author Isolde Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 I just can't win: in one breath people say I don't try hard enough, and in another, that I try too hard. I dont know how to talk to boys or how to act on dates and no one likes me anyway. I don't have chemistry with anyone. That's why I'm giving up and yes of course it is reversible like anything else in life but I don't see that happening This isn't the first time I've tried to quit but maybe it will be my last (hopefully). Yes, I hereby quit boys. At least I have graduate studies and a future career to make me feel purposeful. Is it enough? Maybe it'll have to be.
Green Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 well before you kill yourself make a trip and come visit me you crazy hot chick
Meaplus3 Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Perhaps your trying to hard? You know I've found that when you sort of stop looking that's when you find someone. Don't give up. Have faith in yourself it will happen. AP:)
Author Isolde Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 I never said I was suicidal... I'm not nearly THAT crazy, only crazy enough to post about myself constantly on some romance board
Green Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 are you a virgin? you've kissed before right? well it doesn't matter, guys like weird girls. have you seen all the fat ugly girls out there with guys... well if they can do it then a hot one like you can. And if you ever want to visit you can, and that just off your one picture I saw. Its not all about having a bf either what are your other goals in life?
Author Isolde Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 I know it's not just about having a bf, but it's sort of like when one aspect of your life is not going well it makes you subconsciously act different you know?
Author Isolde Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 It's not like I'm not willing to wait for a quality relationship; I just feel convinced that having a bf is something that wasn't meant for me
zicke Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 Well, we each create our own reality by our dominant thoughts. If your dominant thoughts are that you will never find a boyfriend, then you won't. Change your thoughts, change your life.
Author Isolde Posted October 7, 2008 Author Posted October 7, 2008 I mean, I'm not sure changing my attitude is helpful. The times when I felt most confident, I had no more luck than the times I was least confident.
Nemo Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 It could be worse. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A24761-2004Jul2.html
Author Isolde Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 Well no it doesn't make me happy to hear about other people having trouble but that article is about finding wives in developing countries, not dating in my environment so it doesn't help. It all doesn't really matter, I guess. I guess I have my whole life to "work on myself," as all my friends tell me to do. (Of course, all those friends are in relationships) But what is, is. Obviously there's a reason I haven't had romance in my life yet, and far be it from me to question that it was meant to be.
Nemo Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Maybe you're just being too picky. When coasterchris rattled your cage, perhaps you could have let him in.
Author Isolde Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 Wait, I don't get the coasterchris reference Regardless I can assure you I do not have more than a couple people a year trying to knock on my cage, so yes I am picky, but I'm not given choices.
Jersey Shortie Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Well, I can somewhat relate Isolde. Watching most of my friends have long term committed relationships and how in the process of getting engaged and married and me who keeps on dating and not really finding anything more substanial makes me wonder what they have that I clearly don't. I have had relationships that have lasted but it still seems like they figured out something that I can't seem to figure out. I don't think I know how to really talk to guys either sometimes and I am certainly often shy with men even though I am sure it comes off as aloof. And lately I have just given up trying. Haven't been going out, stayin in the weekend, not trying any internet dating. Sometimes I rather just spend the weekend doing projects around the house then go out and try. So I understand wanting to give up. But, I don't think you really want to give up. I know I don't. Even though I have lately. You wouldn't have written this thread if you did. So you still have hope, as you should. Hang in there.
Green Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 so you never answered my questions... have you kissed a guy? have you had sex?
Author Isolde Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 yes i've had sex a few years ago (dont want to get into that in detail) and yes i've kissed about five guys but no relationships
Green Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 yes i've had sex a few years ago (dont want to get into that in detail) and yes i've kissed about five guys but no relationships you don't need to get into detail. Join the multi sex soccer team like i Told you or move 2 FL, NYC or CA
Author Isolde Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 what is a multi sex soccer team? multi = more than 2. i didn't know there were more than 2 sexes. also, why FL, CA or NY? i hear the guys in NYC and LA just look for hookups anyway. i dont think moving is ever a solution to this sort of thing
Green Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 what is a multi sex soccer team? multi = more than 2. i didn't know there were more than 2 sexes. also, why FL, CA or NY? i hear the guys in NYC and LA just look for hookups anyway. i dont think moving is ever a solution to this sort of thing Well yeah there is Females & Males which make up the two sexs... and a multi-bathroom would be for men and women and a multi-sex soccer team would have teamates that are of the coed variety... and you could maybe meet a nice guy or make girlfriends who could set you up with a nice guy. And NYC, FL, and CA are where I spend most of time so I've become and Isolde fan so if you were ever in the vicinity ur mix of desperation and hotness have peaked my interests
Author Isolde Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 Your mixture of goofiness and niceness has made me a bit of a KMT fan, too
Author Isolde Posted October 8, 2008 Author Posted October 8, 2008 But I'm not desperate. Desperate means wanting a relationship after the first date, not wanting a bf after a whole life without one
Green Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 Your mixture of goofiness and niceness has made me a bit of a KMT fan, too Oh yeah and Halloween is comming up thats a great time to find new people to date. I'm thinking about going as Borat
Green Posted October 8, 2008 Posted October 8, 2008 But I'm not desperate. Desperate means wanting a relationship after the first date, not wanting a bf after a whole life without one I've had a few gf's and I wasn't the greatest bf. so maybe you wernt missing out on that much. Any ways life is all about the present. So when you do get a bf which will be soon one month tops, it will be like you always had one and it will be hard to remember what it was like not having one. When your dating you just walk around holding hands, some times you dance or just cuddle when you watch a movie its all kind of gay and you just talk about eachothers lives like about how her cousin is getting married to some old dude because she got pregnant and the wedding is nxt month. The best part for me about having a gf is the gauranteed sex... its really the only thing that makes it super awsome.
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